Wanna Laugh well maybe not..

You guys know that I am having issues with the people I work with.. We are a small department within a big state system and we dont really do anything with the state side so the 7 of us work exclusively together. Well they are really giving me a hard time about my weight loss.. they dont say hi to me.. they say Hey skinny.. you're too thin.. I would never have that surgery, I would never want to eat the way you do. Your so cold because you wear tiny clothes.. I just want to slap these people... Of all the people in this group there is only one person who is not over weight.. that is my partner.. the one I told you we co exist and she and I dont speak much.. She is at least nice and possitive about my weight loss although she likes to tell me I look sunken, drawn and sickly.. isnt that nice. Well she is such a gossip person. She was gone for 2 months so I was in my little house all a lone the whole time. Well she is back.. since she is back the drama is already starting.. she tells me they are picking on me all the time in the other house.. They say all kinds of mean things about my weight loss.. So now here is the funny.. I guess they have all decided that they are gonna loose weight now.. and they are gonna do it without surgery.. (2 would qualify..lol) anyway.. I've noticed they keep walking to the other side of the facility like 2 or 3 times a day.. very unusual for them.. I guess that is there exercise they are doing.. Dont get me wrong I am glad they are trying to get in good shape.. they walk like snails though.. so I chuckle at it.. of course they have said nothing to me about trying to loose weight or dieting.. Well I guess one of them has lost 16 pounds so far and the other one has lost 20 pounds.. I dont know about the other 2 doing this.. they are so upset cause they dont see a change.. they should be in smaller clothes now (they think).. so they are all bent out of shape over there because they dont see any changes yet.. I guess the really mean one I talk about has designed the diet they are on.. and they are just little happy campers following along. I have to laugh at the silliness of all of them.. What they think they should be in size 10's because they lost 20 pounds.. please.. how unrealistic is that.. I think they think what I did was easy and they could get tiny quickly or something. So my birthday is on Sunday, May 6th and of course that means another lunch with the gang.. grrr.. so they wanted to know where I wanted to go for lunch.. as I was getting ready to answer.. they chimed in.. a place with real food.. meat.. you know.. I dont want to go somewhere were we cant get something good to eat.. what do they think I eat grass or something.. Go figure.. just to add to my day and my constant way of trying to avoid speaking to any of them.. Now i get to spend another wonderful lunch with my DEAR coworkers having a meal.. yeah... I am so excited.. NOT..

Oh gosh, Carla! I soooooo don't envy you having to put up with those sour pusses! I think I would use all those comments as "compliments" in a way. Because you know they are all being said out of jealousy that you've been so successful. And as far as their diet is going ... statistics show that 95% of people that lose weight (without surgery) will gain it back. So you can sit back and smile knowing that you are and will continue to be a success while they most likely will fail miserably. By them being mean and caddy behind your back, they are just begging Kharma to come and bite their behinds! Hee, hee! Deanna

Just tell them you have other plans for that day, or the place you want to go really won't fit in with their new "diet" regimen. Congratulations Carla !

I am so sorry. sorry that they are so narrow minded. sorry that they are so cliquish. sorry that they are such little butt-sniffers. sounds like they are chasing their tails around and accomplishing -0-. I so would just be exhausted putting up with the broohaha after a year of hard work that you have invested. surely they SEE that it is an INVESTMENT and not over night? hugs

Usually i have no problems with my co-workers, we get along great. However, my boss has taken on an "intern" and that one is a thorn in my buttocks! They all know about the weight loss surgery and we laugh and cry whatever emotions need to be carted out there, we do for one another. Today i was at a college (shoot me now) health fair where they served burgers, dogs, every mayo salad every created, cookies, funnel cake (geez louise funnel cake is like a food ****** for me) nothing healthy at THIS health fair! I say to "O Mighty Intern" i have no problem not eating this nonsense but boy that funnel cake is my weakness. We each go walking around a bit, me for exercise, that b*tch goes for funnel cake....eats it right in front of me. My f*ckin' eye almost twitched right outta my head. Thankfully i was able to spit pistachio nut seeds at her or i'd have cut her still beating heart out! ANDI

ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Andi, you crack me up

Carla That is so horrid for you. I don't understand why people can't be nice and civil to one another, it would certainly make the world a better place. As my mum used to say (and countless other mums no doubt) if you can't say something nice then don't say it at all. My opinion on how to deal with it is give back the opposite, even thought this is very hard at times - if they are mean, you be kind. Not only does this help you not get all screwed up and mean inside, it shows up their behaviour for what it is. Also, I try to remember this - hurt people, hurt people (people that have been hurt, go on to hurt other people). There is always a reason for why people act like they do - it doesn't excuse it, but may help you to understand where it is coming from.