I'm So Disappointed!

I thought for sure we'd have a huge grup who wanted to do the secret surgiversary santa's, but alas that's not to be! I wonder what keeps people from joining up, have you not gotten the support you need from the wonderful people on here, have you not gotten your questions or concerns answered, have you laughed at all? Perhaps it's the cost of doing it which can be minimal, it's not about the money it's about being thankful for having one another! I've made some of the most wonderful friends on here, i've laughed i've cried and really that's what this journey is about for me. So, tell me what stops you from joining us, i'd really like to know. ANDI

I am not sure 'why' I have not joined. I do not think that it is the 'cost' or the 'time' commitment. I think that the whole point of joining an online board is to share and keep in touch without the cost incurance of a snail mail relationship. I have joined other 'snail mail' activities and I do 'like' having the paper cards up on my wall for a couple of months, and then I take them down and put them away. I wish that I could 'throw' them away, I hate clutter, but I feel guilty that someone so special mailed them, so I do not, I have binders of other peoples 'cards' that I have collected over the years. will need to buy a bigger house for all the menageries. seriously that may be the root of it. I really do love the people and just do not love the junk. and it does not reflect on the people them selves but seriously, I just do not need more 'junk' in the house. with 5 kids I already have a lot of junk that comes home from the school that I hate to throw away, because it might hurt someones feelings, but that is a lot of freaking junk to have piled up. I am bombarded with mail as it is. advertising. solicitation. some of which is returns from my own advertising and solication that went to a bad address. some days I just want to shout. stop the insanity. no more stuff. just my $.02

well thanks for putting your two cents in. I don't really feel the need/urge to keep everything i get or I use them as book marks (cards) if i do. Thank you for responding and i'm sorry we can't include you in our snail mail fun....you'd only have one person so it's not like you'd get a ton of mail! ANDI

I understand your disappointment and I would love to see more ppl join, but in truth. there are maybe 10 of us that have remained faithful in responding on this board and the those ppl have all wanted to be a part of this. that to me is wonderful. Not that I dont care about others, but this small group we have who show up everyday are the ones I love and care about. If it is only us.. i am happy with that because we are the ones that know each other the best, and have been there for each other since the beginning... We have also been the ones who have supported the other ones who have dropped in once in awhile for advise. We spoke a while back about givers and takers. This is a time to show our love and support to all the ppl who have given day in and day out to the others who have been there each day and the occassional drop in. You guys know who u are and I love and care about each and everyone of u. Now I am not saying I dont want the others to join in.. please do.. the more the merrier. This is one of the best boards around in my opinion and at our one year aniversary.. we deserve to celebrate all we have accomplished even if you get a card that may clutter your fridge for a day. Its worth it to you to receive and for you to give the other person a chance to give. Making both sides feel good is what this is all about.. So come on guys.. lets make this a success.. join in.. If you get something you dont want or need.. so what toss it.. its the thought that counts and the chance to make yourself and the other person feel good.

I"m out of the loop. havent' checked the board as much lately... so how does this work? Joe

It's pretty straightforward and easy to do, you give me your name, address and surgery date and then i pair you up with a "secret surgiversary buddy" and you send them notes/gifts/surprises around their anniversary date and you'll get the same in return! If you want in just tell me and we'll add you to the list, I'm making the pairs tomorrow. ANDI

I have been going back and forth. I like these sorts of things normally. Cards especially, like our Christmas card exchange, however, because I come and go so often on the board, I feel like I might not know what to get someone as a gift. On the flip side, someone may feel uncomfortable getting my name given that they know others on here closer than they do me. We do a similar type thing for a Christmas exchange with my Dad's side of the family and it's always hard to get the name of a cousin you haven't seen or talked to since last year and you wish you got aunt so and so because you could pick out the perfect gift for her. It's not really an aversion, I just didn't know if I should or not considering I am not here as much as you all. It has nothing at all with not having gotten great support from those on the board. Rachael

I don't think it's that complex, you know ALL of us that are doing this, it's me, it's Ruthy it's Carla all people that know you and adore you! Think about it, we'll do it tonight! I am also going to make up a list of questions so that it will be alot easier to get something that your buddy likes! Hugs, ANDI

do we just send stuff on surgiversary or can we send something at anytime thanks tina

you can send whatever you want whenever you want. As we get closer to the may dates i think it'll be easier to figure out what your "buddy" would like. Hugs, ANDI