How is your love life?

It is normal for him to think about you being "too good" for him. He does not want you to change. The fact is, you are changing and you choose to. What he desperately needs to know is that you will not out grow HIM. If he feels confident of that, he will feel better about you changing and his and your joy will be more in line. Find a way to separate the parts of your life to support you and him. Take advantage of the active and passive parts that cross. perhaps he can ride an incline bike (good on the back, rent one first) while you walk. remind him that his arthritis will be decreased with exercise as well and the inclide bike is limited weight bearing and good for him. Or allocate 'me' time and 'us' time. Find things tht you can do together that mtches your new outlook. Perhaps go to a movie instead of watching one at home. go for a drive to a park that has a bench by the lake and a walking trail around it. Is there a habit he has that you can enjoy together? YOu WILL have to spend more time reassuring him about your relationship. Pet names, little things, reassuring words, etc. go a long way. If yu can get him into the "let's go show off my sexy wife" mode, it may change his outlook. Hope this helps and good luck.

Very Wise Counsel...

so are things ok? i'm gonna have Karina read this thread, because I think she can relate to some of what you're talking about. I think communication is the key, as with anything else in relationships. the funny thing is, I can relate to your husband, cuz i miss the sitting around vegging and eating bad foods too!