WOW!! Moment

I think, maybe because of losing a baby during this process, that I have missed and/or minimized so many of the wow moments that I had. I really don't recall any at all. But I had one on Saturday that I'd really like to share. I was shopping for shoes (and finding that's it's almost impossible to find taupe shoes that don't look like something my grandma would wear!) and tried on several pair. Now for probably 20 years I have worn an 8 1/2 Wide. Well, i tried on several pair that were too big and finally realized what the problem was, I'm not a WIDE anymore!! I was in tears, I have been so ashamed of my feet for so long, I can't tell you the last time I was able to wear a truly feminine pair of shoes. I am now a 7 1/2 or 8 MEDIUM WIDTH!! I bought 3 pair!! For some reason, those medium shoes mean more to me than losing 95 pounds and wearing a size 6 clothes. Those MEDIUM WIDTH shoes stand for Normal for me, for pretty for feminine. Today, I am grateful for this surgery and this tool I have been given. Sincerely, Deb 229/135/134/129 surgery/dr goal/today/my goal

congratulations to you Deb! I didnt' know about the baby i'm so sorry. I too have lost a child so if you want to talk, please dont hesitate to contact me. ANDI

Yes, Andi, I must have immediately gotten pregnant after the surgery (after 17 years of infertility and trying to have another baby and being told we wouldn't have another baby!!) Well, at 15 weeks pregnant I found out. I had an ultrasound and saw the little baby boy moving and he was fine, the dr. said he looked wonderful and my husband and i (even though we are grandparents well in our 40's) were thrilled. Just a few short days later, the placenta separated from my uterus and he died. it had been tragic. he was due to be born March 11th. My perspective about my WLS has been, well, I guess you could say different from most. I'd do anything to be able to have that time back, to get early pre-natal care. maybe there is something that could have been done to save him. There were no abnormalities. He was a perfect tiny baby. Anyway, thanks for letting me share. I've shared before that i know i've been one of those "takers" on here. i'm trying to be a "giver" but i'm finding that i have little to give. i think because my focus has been so shifted in the last few months. but, i do appreciate this forum and all the support you all give. thanks, deb

I glad you had a great wow moment today. that is so cool when you realize something new about your body. I am truely sorry about your loss. It is truely a tragedy and I send big hugs and prayers your way so that you can find the strenght to make it through this difficult time. As far as being a giver or taker on this board. remember this is your board to and we are all on the same journey. Some will experience major bumps in the road and may even disappear for a while, but give or take you are welcome. We all know that this time is difficult for all of us in one way or another and with real life issues getting in there.. it can even be tougher. There are no judgements in how you come to us, but just know you can come to us for anything, big or small and we will be there for you. And if you find the time.. great.. give back. but if its not there right now.. we all understand and love you. Take care and be good to yourself.

Carla, thanks so much for your empathy and acceptance, it is truly appreciated. You are so sweet. Sincerely, Deb

Hi Deb I love this wow moment. I love that you feel more feminine. You know, I find that the smaller mini wows have more of an impact on me than the major classic wows, if you know what I mean. They seem to go deeper inside somehow. Deb, you are normal AND feminine.......way to go

thanks Ruth, you probably don't realize this, but your sweet, calm, kindness has supported me in so many ways through these past months. You are so accepting and reasonable and i sense that you truly understand that this is a journey that we are all on. I appreciate your insight. Sincerely, Deborah

awe.. that is so sweet. I went from a size 11W to a 12 last year before surgery. for the wedding in January, I ended up with a 8.5 regular shoe, it was the kewest feeling on earth.