What was your payoff?

I am a doctor phil fan and while living in America thought about his statement regarding payoffs. You do something for the payoff you get from it. Sorry I haven't put it very well. Anyway, it got me thinking....what was my payoff for remaining obese, and failing at diets? After much thinking, I realised that being fat was what I knew. I have always been fat in all my memory, although due to dieting just got fatter and fatter as the years went on! Overeating, lack of exercise was also the easier short term choice - I could behave like a child and not discipline myself, I could have my cake and eat it. The payoff was that I didn't have to discipline myself and make difficult choices - took the easy road. Being fat also gave me a reason for being rejected. If I didn't get a job I went for, it was because I was fat and they didn't think I could do the job properly. If someone didn't like me it was because I was fat and they thought I was lazy, weak willed, etc. Do you get where I'm going with this? Not that I realised any of this at the time, or verbalised it, but looking back I know it was there. It was safe being fat, it gave me justifiable reasons for what I saw as failures in life. So now I have to find my payoff for not being obese - wow I have thousands of those - more confidence in myself (yes, very contradictory to the above statments, but who said my psyc was logical???), more energy, more life!!!!!!!! to name just a few What WAS your payoff for being obese and what IS your payoff for being lighter??

The payoff for being obese was that i didn't have to feel or deal with the emotions in my life! It was safe to be fat, I never had a problem with my self esteem so that wasn't an issue. The payoff for being thinner is that I'm happier now, more at peace with myself. ANDI

The payoff for being obese was that i didn't have to feel or deal with the emotions in my life! It was safe to be fat, I never had a problem with my self esteem so that wasn't an issue. The payoff for being thinner is that I'm happier now, more at peace with myself. ANDI

Well the pay off was I didnt have to think about working out, going and doing things, and could eat whatever I wanted. This lead me to a very unhealthy life which is not what I wanted, but it was far easier to do that than to make better choices. What it truely did was isolate me from my family, friends and the world because when I got so obese i didnt want to participate in life.. just hide in shame so the pay off for being obese was isolation and a very unhappy and healthyly life. the pay off for being thin has a much more positive outlook. I am now a participant in life. I have a family and friends that I want to spend time with and be a part of their lives. the pay off is feeling good about myself and being more confident in all areas of my life. To have this life I must commit to a life of staying on track, working out, not hiding on the sidelines and just say I can do it. With anything good in life we have to work for it. staying thin is definately worth the work and i am commited to doing this the rest of my happy and healthy life.