Whats up with that

Ok so here is the deal..I am 9 months out... i started at 264.. down to 145 today.. I'm 5'5' and according to the bmi i am in my ideal weight range.. but barely.. what is with people actually getting mad at me.. arguing with me about loosing more weight. I even have them say I need to gain back 20 pounds which would make me over weight again. I tell them I would still like to loose 10 more pounds and they have a fit.. I mean really get mad at me... What don't they see... I am still not at the place I want to be.. I would like a little wiggle room with my weight.. So now I just dont tell them I lost another pound cause they get so upset.. It stupid I cant share my journey with my friends cause they will just get mad at me.. Right now they all think I still weigh 150.. lol.. anyone having this problem

No one has gotten upset yet...I get comments like "well don't get too skinny" or "no way you need to lose 10 more pounds" I would not worry about what they say, they probably have good intentions. I just keep thinking that to them yeah we probably look pretty good, especially considering where we started off at but they don't have to see us naked with all our imperfections showing. So, lose what your comfortable with...you body will stop when it's ready. You have done great and look fabulous.

Hey Carla, I am going through the same thing right now. People at work are calling me skinny minnie, family saying don't lose anymore, you're too little. I am 5'3 &135lbs which was my goal & I could care less if I lose anymore but my surgeon set his goal for me at 120lbs because he wants me to have wiggle/bounce back room. My hubby even gave me a funny look the other day when I said I have 15 more lbs to go. I really intend to get to my surgeons goal but know that I will probably not look very good! I have 2 friends who had wls 2 & 4 yrs ago both lost down to where they just looked too skinny (almost not healthy) but then they had 10-20 lbs bounce back weight & both look actually very health now & they feel great. So I know I have to go through that really skinny/sick look to get back to healthy look.(if that makes sense).I really do not want to have 10-20 lbs gain right now then I would be back at 150. So just do what you need to do for you!!! ~Missy~

I get the same thing, I am 5 5 as well and started at 283, I am 180 now (Iwont be 9 mth until next week)and I want to be 135... but honsetly will be happy anything smaller than the day before...LOL.. Still I have my hubby wanted me to hurry up and be smaller and others telling me I losing to fast and getting too skiny.... I dont like to talk about it except to my sister or here.

dang i'm getting so jealous, I'm such a slow loser. I've got 22 more pounds until my surgeons goal and 37 more to my own goal. I'm only 4'10 which puts me at a distinct disadvantage from the rest of you "normal" heighters. Slow and steady wins the race though and I'm ok with that. My new saying is "it'll be what it'll be" and i can't make it any more then it already is. If i bring my food intake any lower i'm going to make myself miserable and really that's not what this is a all about for me. Hugs, ANDI

I do not share anymore. I just say, I am right where I want to be today. which is true, I am alive, and that is good. but no, I do not say, I have lost another pound and I am getting close. people get mad because they are insecure about their own issues. by not sharing so much you do not open yourself up to negative feedback.

My other half is the worst. I dont even discuss it anymore. I know she's proud of me, but she never says anything to me.. I dont get you look nice.. nice job.. nothing but I know she tells others about how much weight I've lost.. They come to me all the time saying she is boosting all over the place at how good I look.. but tell me.. no way.. and the distrust is getting crazy too. Why.. what are u doing.. whats going on... omg.. its getting crazy. Yesterday I stopped and had lunch at a resturant.. yes all by myself.. I needed to kill about an hour of time between appointments so I went to a resturant and sat in the bar and at the inside of a taco. I got the third degree.. where are u.. that doesnt sound right.. you've never done that before.. what are u really doing.. it was crazy.. back to the weight.. I get told dont u dare loose another pound.. I dont want u looking sickly.. I just dont get it.. I think that green eyed monstor is rearing his head .. what do u think