Need Advice Please !

Hi Everyone, I haven't posted anything in months but I have been lurking a lot lately. I"m starting to think I"m a failure at this. I am 9 months out and only loss 85lbs. I'm so stressed right now, don't get me wrong I'm thankful for those lbs lost but I wi**** was more. I do exercise so I am seeing inches but the numbers on the scale aren't being friendly to me. So I'm asking you all for advice on what I should do. Thank You in Advance to anyone *****sponds. Tierra

Hey Tierra.. welcome back.. Well we all have our ups and downs here. I looked at your profile.. from what i can see you weighed 320 and youve lost 85 pounds. so u are currently at 235.. do i have that right. Well I think you've done great.. some people loose faster than others and because we are all so different there is no set amount we should all be at by now. With that said. are you staying on track, eating the right things. You are welcome to join us each day and put your stuff down to see how you are doing in relationship to other Mayers are doing. If you are loosing inches thats great.. so join us on the boards.. see what we are doing and see if you are on track with us. I think that would help you a lot.. just being a part that.. good luck

Thanks Carla ! I currently weigh 252 my surgery day weight was 337.

Hi. I had my surgery on 5/31/06 I have only lost 67 lbs. I really feel as if I must be doing something terribly wrong. I don't eat a whole lot. I exercise by walking on the treadmill 30 minutes a day. What really makes me feel worst is looking on these boards and seeing the amount of weight some of the people have lost. Its not like I am not happy for them, but I have to say, it really can make me feel a little down. I started at 275 lbs. and now weigh 208. I do feel a ton better with the weight off but would be a lot happier to see more of it gone. I take my vitamins daily and I drink at least 64 oz. of water. Do you eat carbs? I don't eat much of them but I am starting to think it does'nt take much of them to sabatoge my weight loss efforts. Good luck...Paula

I think this is the time that we just have to work harder to get it off. I know my problem lately is way too many carbs, and I need to run more & walk less (more intense exercise). Sounds like you are doing great though! Hugs, Darlene

Hi Tierra this is one of the things I'm struggling with at the moment. I feel like my body just absorbs anything I eat and uses it to store away for a later date!! I don't know, but I think my body has been so messed up with all the previous dieting I've done in my life it doesn't know what to do right anymore. So it's taking a long time to re-learn how it should react to food in the right way. But if we stick with the program and hang in there, it MUST give way eventually and get us to where we want to be, no matter how frustrating it is. Sometimes it feels like a mountain we are climbing, but just think of the exhilaration we will feel when we get to the top and look back at how far we have come. **Talking to self here too** We have the whole rest of our lives in front of us, so take a breath, and enjoy the view on this journey of ours. Just because we are taking the scenic route does not mean we won't get to the final destination.

I had the same problem and found out I was NOT eating enough and my body was storing it because it thought I was starving. I increased my protein and that really helped. Overall I am a slow loser too....

for me, I have to go back to basics. I added in carbs in November and by December, 4 weeks, the gravy train was over. and in the last 4 weeks, I have ate normally, and lately, flat out grazing my butt off and the scale is teetering up and down so I know that I have leveled off. I could kick start it again with a Lean Meats and Leafy Green Vegetables if I wanted to loose more, but I am seriously comfortable with this. so if you are at your goal, try it. it really does work.

I'm right where you are, i'm flustered as well. Just keep plugging along, be true to yourself, if you're eating carbs (i'm guilty) stop doing that and see if it makes a difference. Hide the scale for awhile, if it's not being your friend, don't entertain it by getting on it twice a day (guilty). Hugs, ANDI

Tierra, You are doing great! Don't worry about the number. I know how you feel though looking at the board and it seems like everyone is losing a lot more than you. Well You Have lost more than me. I am just greatful for what I have lost. I lost about 65lbs so far. But you really need to step back and look at your self from where you started to where you are now. I am just now realizing how far I have come. When I look in the mirror I still see the same person, but when I compare pictures I can totally see the difference. So try that and realize that you have come a long way. It is really hard to understand. Good luck, Carrie