Time to re-evaluate

OK, so we are all well on our journey to new bodies now we are 7/8 months out. The first months naturally are spent dealing with the physical issues we are going through. Now we are dealing with different issues. For some it's maintenance, others how to stay on the narrow path for even longer that perhaps we at first thought, for some loosing weight has raised other issues in their lives that was hidden by being overweight, are a few of the things we may be dealing with amongst many others. How are you doing? The New Year is an ideal opportunity for us to take an honest look at ourselves as a whole person, body (physical) mind (thoughts) and soul (emotions/feelings). If you are not where you want to be in any area, what are you doing/going to do about it? I wish you all a wholesome healthy New Year, even if we are not there yet, we can take steps towards where we want to go. One step at a time we will get there.

Hi Ruth I still have a ways to go I have lost 97 lbs and have more than 50 to go. But my doctor think I will make my goal in 12 to 15 mth. I am just happy to be smaller than before. I do get very emotional and the difference with they way I am treated. I will always remember things said to me at almost 300 lbs. Being mooed at , being told to go on a diet. Just to name a few. . I do get a bit angry with the same people and type of people now wanting to befriend me or guy****ting on menow who made fun of me before. I do still have a hard time not turning to food when upset. It's a constant struggle. I have allot of lose skin in my tummy and legs and its gross, but its so cool to see a shape forming. to put on clothes and look good and to have more energy than before and to be able to do more things than before. my neighbor is a plastic surgeon so next I will work up the nerve to talk to her about it. Only one person in my neighborhood knows I have had the surgery. hugs Jean

I am currently really struggling with that old desire to eat for emotional reasons. But for me, I used to eat for every reason ... boredom, stress, anxiety, loneliness, pleasure, etc. Every reason would send me to the cupboards! Anyway, lately those emotions are coming up again. I'm much more mindful of it now and I know in my heart I don't want to sabotage all the hard work I've put into this new body. I don't EVER want to return to what I used to be. So I imagine this year will be full of emotional healing of sorts. Trying to sort through why I turn to food like I do and get past it. I realize I'm not physically hungry but that desire to eat is coming back. Go away! I don't want you in my life anymore! Hee, hee! Deanna

Hey Deanna, Ive been catching up on posts as I havent been here in a few days but I read yours and can completely relate to how you feel and how you are tempted. I am going thru the very same things. I struggle with head hunger, with being home and feeling the need to "reward" myself and I used to with food and I still am finding it difficult to not do it now. I like some of the suggestions and I just wanted to add that YOU CAN DO IT!! Realizing this should be very empowering for you and acutally acknowleging it becuase it isnt a dirty secret - not anymore since you shared it. Hang in there!!! Kathryn

Well you ask for honesty....ha ha... I actually have become quite obsessed with getting thinner and thinner. I am now 6 lbs till I hit a noraml BMI. For me that means for once in my life I will have been considered normal. The problem....I am starting to get the "to skinny" thing. I don't think I am to skinny. I look at myself and yes I see a smaller me but I still see myself as overweight. Maybe that is because I have excess stomach skin, or who knows. But I know I am not to skinny. Maybe having a normal BMI is unrealistic? I have been very lucky and continue to lose weight each week. But, I do excercise everyday, and I eat very healthy. I don't eat junk anymore, and pay attention to anything that is going to be eaten. Maybe I have taken it to far? I have no idea...but I do hope when the time comes where I think I am at goal that I can stop losing.

WOW what a profound post this is! I am an emotional eater and i wasn't always fat morbidly obese so I know what lies on the other side for me. My husband and I have some "issues" as a couple and either we are going to work on them or we'll be apart, i've come to terms with that and i'll be ok either way. We had a stillborn (13) years ago this March and I had a really tough time coping with that. Many people were sick and tired of hearing how much my heart ached and how I longed for a child so what i did was shut up and instead of talking out my feelings i suppressed them and I ate so I wouldn't talk about him. I know that didn't help me one bit and I've decided that it's time to accept the fact that it was not meant to be no matter how much I wanted that baby boy! I have been blessed by three beautiful and healthy children and life goes on! I will always miss that first boy but it wasn't in G*D's master plan, I think it's made me a better mom because I realize what a gift my children are and that nothing in life is certain, i mean after all, who loses a baby at 38 weeks? Thanks for listening to me purge my soul. I'm on the road to recovery and i'll make it to goal one step at a time! I have 24 pounds to my surgeons goal and 37 lbs to my goal, if i land somewhere in between there i will think i'm a success story. Hugs, ANDI