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Hello there! Today my husband and I are celebrating our 13th wedding anniversary. I got up, made my husband french toast for breakfast and gave him a gift. I got him 13 scratch off lottery tickets (one for each year of marriage) and a new cell phone case that he wanted. Anyway, he didn't get me anything! So when he saw my gift, he says "Oh, I guess I better go get you a gift now." Well, ARG! I don't want a gift bought out of guilt. If he was going to get me a gift, he should have done it beforehand and it should have been bought out of love, not guilt! Anyway, I am sooooooo beyond mad! This is so typical of him so I should know better. But everytime I get my hopes up that he will come through and then I get let down because he doesn't. Now my stomach is all tied in knots and I can't eat when I get this way! I can't drink either ... it's like my stomach gets all tied up and nothing will go down. Ugh! Do you find that you get more irritable now? Maybe it's because I can't turn to food anymore to stuff in my face. I don't know! I'm just in a BAD MOOD today!!! Hee, hee! Deanna

I'm not married or in a serious relationship so I can't really relate but I'm sorry your anniversary didn't turn out the way you wanted it to. One of my older brothers always screws up (anniversary, Mother's Day, bday, Christmas). Bless his heart he just can't get it together. My sis-n-law just a couple of hours ago was saying "After 10 years you'd think he would know enough about me by now to get me something that would MEAN something to me." Just wanted to let you know you're not alone. Happy Anniversary! I was a VERY moody person before surgery. I hated myself and I took it out on everybody else. Now in general I'm a much better person to be around, BUT when I do get pissed its bad and I don't have food to turn to. Hang in there and I hope tomorrow is a better day for you! Hugs, Mandy

Can totally relate Deanna Much as I love my husband, he infuriates me at times in this respect. I agree - the present needs to have thought behind it - it doesn't matter what the cost - it could be something not expensive at all, if thought had gone into it. Sigh, sometimes they just don't get it do they. We've been married 12 years (13 in May 07). Be mad, let him make it up to you, and show you that he does love you but in his way and enjoy the next 13 years together and think of all the things about him that you do love and is special. BTW, my stomach gets all knotted too now, and whereas I would turn to food and stuff myself now I can't eat at all when I'm like that. Well that's good I suppose!!??

HOLY GUACAMOLE BATMAN....JUST LOOKKITT YOU RUTHIE!!!!! you're just beautiful honey what an awesome picture. If it's anything to the rest of you, my hsuband is an ass too and can't figure out how to buy me a gift to save his life. My birthday in October i got nothing, nada, zilch, zippity doo dah he goes "i had no idea what to get you" i said i've lost 60lbs you idiot do you think i might need some CLOTHES? Anyway, i'm definitely grumpier now that chocolate, my previous main staple, is outta my life. Be Well, ANDI

Gee thanks Andi. I've been trying to update my avatar with the help of Deborah. So changed to that horrible old fat one for a while. Mindyou , it was good to be reminded of where I've come from!!!

first rule of thumb, you must always schedule the gift three days in advance. guys are just NID. Not Into Details. you have to INFORM them IN ADVANCE.. I know it sucks, but they are not spontaneous guys. except for sex. for some reason, they can have THAT spontaneous. I learned EARLY ON.. just put it on his calendar... DORK.. ANNIVERSARY in THREE DAYS.. spend $100 on gift. make wife breakfast and bring to her in her office. (know in advance that I will be even less able to be sociable.. I am ALWAYS at my desk in my office) heehee Kat [Photographer & Mom of 5] [[ Some people are like slinkies, they don't really have a purpose, but they still bring a smile to your face when you push them down the stairs.]] 275/247/159/150 start/surgery/today/goal

that is so funny but true. I give my hubby 1 week and a list of thing I want for him to pick from...LOL he will still wait until the last day for the gift. and forget the "do stuff for me " after all he is the general...LOL

I'm sorry you're having one of those days on your anniversary! I do find that I am definitely more irritable over every little thing now and even that irritates me! lol My hubby is the same, so I do what Kat suggested. I just tell him in advance or even give him a list of what I might want because without that he is lost... The funny thing is that if I give him a list I usually get everything on it... Most men don't seem to have the gene needed for gift picking dang it!!! Hugs, Bobbie

Hi Deanna...it sounds like we're all in the same boat!!! I gave up years ago trying to convince my husband that it's the thought, not the gift. so finally I decided, heck with it... I'm going for the gifts!! I tear out catalog pages or email him stuff all year. I circle exact size, color, etc., and he keeps everything in a file. Around Christmas-time I purge the file and put the pages in the order of priority, because one year he got me everything in the file and I'll admit, I felt kinda guilty that Christmas!! So as unromantic as it sounds, I've found that I have to help my husband along in the gift-giving department. I'll say it has certainly eliminated some knock-down drag outs on birthdays, anniversaries, and Christmas!!

Hey Gail Good to see you again. How are you doing? Hope all is well, as I haven't seen you posting for a while. Glad you are back with us