WRETCHED PARTY

I had a table spread that was to die for! I had enough food there for 60, but we ended up with 3 other guests besides myself and my daughter. I mailed out invitations. I called to confirm. I can not imagine why people are as rude as they are. 8 other ladies said yes, definitely, and then never showed. the two bridesmaids said on the phone at the beginning of the party that they were on their way, just around the corner, they never showed up. can you imagine? I can not. so the ladies that did show, mother of the groom, mother of the bride, employer of the bride and friend of the mother of the bride and the bride. that was it. we played the games, we ate the food. I had 1 tablespoon of each of the foods. I stopped 3/4 through my saucer and was finished. I didnt over do it. I was really proud of that. I portioned out the rest of the food sending it home with everyone so that they each ended up with 4 plates of food and I took home the rest. Krys did get a gift card from the employer, to target, and a cake decorator tool from Pampered Chef. I made a booklet that had 1 photo of Krys from each year since she was a baby, it also had all the recipes from the food I made. and all the games in it. took me forever to make it. but it was so cute. it also had the groom in the last 5 years of photos since he joined our family. I called the groom and asked him questions about him and krys and then krys had to guess what he would say. it was fun. we hid a ring in the cake, and the employer found the ring in her slice. got every thing cleaned up and back home by 10 pm. so before the wedding ends up the same way, what could I have done differently? the wedding 'save the date' cards went out 3 months before the wedding, the formal invitations went out 2 months before the wedding. I have received some RSVP cards back, but now with 11 confirmed attending that never showed I am leary of that false positive. do I set up a call list to confirm each the week of? but we DID that for this party and still ended up with 2 guests besides the lady hosting and the guest of honor and myself. I do not want to set up 15 tables again only to use one. and I really do not want to worry about setting up 45 tables if only 3 are needed. and I really really really do not want to buy that much food to go to waste. is it that bridal showers are out of vogue? what the flip went wrong? it was on a Saturday night, shouldn't have been a conflict. *BUMMED IN TEXAS*

I am so sorry how your showered turned out for your daughter. As far as what is in vogue for a shower....most I have been to have been in the afternoon. And from what I have see....my friend just recently had a very large wedding...most will come to the wedding and not the shower. She didnt have quite the turnout that she wanted at her shower but it was held on a Saturday afternoon and had a nice turnout. The wedding however was a completely different story. Almost everyone she invited attended the wedding. I hope the reception for the wedding turns out much better. Kel

Oh no, Kat That's terrible. I feel so bad for you and Krys. People are so rude - I can not believe the bridesmaids phoned and then didn't show!!!! Whats' up with that. It's times like these that I feel I should be more understanding and think that I'm sure people had good reasons etc etc, but I'm not that gracious. I can make exceptions for some but rudeness is rudeness, and the least they could have done is let you know. I have no suggestions re the wedding, but have a feeling that they will show for it. Well hey anyway - you did great on the food front not over eating. I think I would have hit the food big time in those cir****tances. So that's a great big for you.

yep, all things considered, I was suprized, just 9 months ago, during a specifically stressful situation, I ordered two ice cream filled crepes and they came with four spoons (four people at the table) I ate the whole thing and did not share. that was pretty freaky and a turning point in my life. I had already had the consult with the surgeon two weeks before and I would have sworn that I was not an EMOTIONAL EATER. HAHAHAHA now I am still emotional eater, I had a roll last night and pizza, and a totally carb filled weekend, but my VOLUME has become MUCH MORE reasonable!

I'm sorry your party did not turn out as you wanted it to! Reading about the bridesmaids was a real surprise to me, these woman are supposed to be her friend! There is nothing you can do about the wedding, you've done everything exactly right! I would most definitely call the people that do not rsvp but the rest you have just leave alone i don't think calling them is proper, but then again, what do i know. I am so proud of how you ate though. Happy Hollandaise and Peas on Earth. ANDI

yes, I would expect if someone is good enough to stand up for you they would show up for you. they just suck.

That was very rude. The bridesmaids should have come. Sorry you did all that work with people being so rude. I would call the people who did not RSVP. Most weddings are pretty strict about the reply because of the cost of food per plate. Sounds like you did great with eating!

so far we have received 7 rsvp cards within the first week of sending out 130 invitations. THAT was nice. I like to KNOW what to expect. I am cooking for the reception. which could be 10 guests or it could be 400.. who knows. giggle giggle