re: scared... :-(

Hi all - Tomorrow (or today where Ruth lives) is my 6 month surgiversary. I have noticed that I've been feeling very anxious and scared about my future progress now that my "honeymoon" is over. I get hungrier now and eat way more than I could not too long ago. My cravings have returned. I even have dreams about donuts. I guess that I'm afraid that in the first 6 months weight loss is a given, and now that it will be totally up to me, will I fail and regain the weight? I'm really afraid of failing. I also feel like the next 6 months is an unknown, whereas I had a good idea of what the first 6 months would be like. Now that its more of an unknown, I'm more anxious. Is anyone else feeling this way? Take care, Heather

Hey Heather You've been doing fine and you will do fine in the next 6 months. The 1st 6 months were an unknown to us before we got here and now we are just on the next step of the journey. Take each day as it comes. No point in stressing before it happens. We have lived with being failures (our own words) before with not being able to loose weight. WE ARE NOT FAILURES. We have come this far - a huge way, and I know you will not fail. I think this fear lurks in the back of all our minds if we're honest - well it does with me anyway. But you have taken the biggest step of your life having WLS. If you have a day when you are more hungry, balance it the next day when you are not hungry. This is how people without weight problems eat. This is for life and now we are changing from diet thinking to lifestyle thinking. It may take a while to get there there, but you will. That's one of the things this board is far - we can all help each other each step we take. Support will keep us going, step by step.

Thanks so much for your support Ruth! Heather

Who told you the honeymoon is over? You are believing that simply because someone told you it was over, it ain't over until you want it to be. I have made healthier choices then i have in my adult life. I'm armed with a tool that i'm going to make work for me, I WILL FALL OF THE BANDWAGON AND I WILL GET BACK ON. So you have dreams about donuts, i have dreams about Antonio Banderas....doesn't mean i get to eat him but i sure as heck might want to! Take a deep breathe, square your shoulders and know that your honeymoon is far from over....there are slinky dresses to buy in single digit sizes, there are victoria secret thong panties waiting just for you, there' s a healthier bmi with your name on it and so the journey continues on Heather. We will be here, by your side either cheering you on or picking you up but continue on the right path and know you are where G*D wants you to be. Hugs, ANDI

Andi I love your responses. They make so much sense and no waffle. Thanks Ruth PS are you sure we can't get to eat AB? now that would be yummy - and burn up some cals too!!!

Now here's my plans for Antonio....i love you Antonio and i think you need to tell Melanie THAT!!!!! I want him to dance with me, I'll be burning off calories left and right with ballroom dancing! That hot, seductive latin dancing will work for me as well then i want to move to the bedroom and i want to dance horizontally as well. I think he is so freakin' hot. Thank you for your kind words. Let me explain to you where this attitude came from. My best friend, Howard, passed away two years ago in June at the age of 35 from cancer. It started in his lower bowels and by the time he died it was in his liver, kidney's, spinal fluid, pancrease, lungs it was all over suffice it to say. Howard and I went to Sloane Kettering Hospital in NYC for one more road to a cure. The doctor there was brusque and very matter of fact and instead of telling us what we wanted to hear he said Howie i have to tell you, you've got only about 2 months to live. Howards stood up to his full height of 6'2 and said you listen to me Mother F*cker it's my life i'll tell you when i'm going to live and when i'm going to die YOU DON'T GET TO DO THAT TO ME AND DON'T CALL ME HOWIE IT'S HOWARD. This was a man who never and i mean never spoke harshly to another person much less a doctor. We left the office and I was shaking and so was Howard, he was furious, he goes who does he think he is giving me a lifespan does he think he's G*D or something. Oh Howard was a man on fire that day. Just so you know, Howard lived 2 full years after that, he tried every imaginable "cure" they came up with and nothing worked. I loved him like the best friend he was to me and I miss him every single day. Hugs, ANDI

That certainly puts everything into perspective doesn't it......... made me think..........................

Good, that's what it was supposed to do! It makes me realize how much my life has been tainted by this experience. Hugs, ANDI

Hey Andi - The Antonio Banderas dreams sound better to me Thanks for your encouragement! Heather

(((((((((((((((Heather))))))))))))))) be well and know that I wish for you a wonderful, happy and healthy Thanksgiving. Hugs, ANDI