What do ya do?

What do you do when you no longer want anything to do with your lifelong best friend? I am talking about food people! I am tired of it. I am reminded of it when I see our food threads and I can't think of anything good for dinner. nothing sounds good anymore. It takes so long to prepare and we get so little of it. The only thing that I really loved about food was large quantities and carbs...two things I can't have. It's sad. Does anyone else feel like this? I feel so lonely with out food. Parites SUCK without food. I just look at what I can't have. And, if I endulge in a little something for the taste, it doesn't take good anymore and I am astonished. I mean, food was always there for me, always tasted good and always abundant. How can things turn so totally around? It's like the world is backwards now! Rachael

I can relate. I had alot of issues with this just after surgery like when I got home from the hosp. I mourned food so bad. I dont mind cooking and as far as eating such a small ammount, that doesnt bother me it shows me that even when I was big I ate alot eventhough I didnt think I ate that much. Does that make sense? To ease my issues with mourning my once best friend I hop on the scale or I look at my before and after pics. That generally kicks the problem for me. I do still have my days though. I hope it gets better for you. Sarah

Difference I can really relate. I used to LOVE to cook. Now I cant stand to cook. I don't really don't like dealing with it much... I find it hard to get dinners together for my family. Thank God my husband travels allot and my son is 14 and can heat up lean cuisines. I started knitting and other stuff... But don't really have any good answers . Just to let you know your not alone! ( I also think we had an unhealthy reletionship with food before and need to fill that part of ourselfs in other areas) Jean

I went through the grieving process over the loss of my best friend a few months ago. It was very strange and hit me very suddenly. I only told my husband as no-one else around me would have understood It does get better and easier. Hang in there Ruth

I think I mourned food awhile ago. I believe what's bothering me right now is "who am I without food?" If I am not eating and eating and cooking and obsessing about my next meal....then who am I and I don't know that person. It really is an identity crisis. Food has been my life for as long as I have had memories. Now I have to make a new me! And because food covers up so much of our "feelings" and struggles, I guess I never really new who I WAS under the food. Now I have to be someone new. weird. For me, it's an unexpected issue after WLS Rachael

just as an fyi i LOVE parties and i dance like nobodies business or i make sure i meet some new people i adore parties. I'm having a hard time cooking for my family though becuase i forget side dishes and they are getting upset with me...oh well eat canned corn and move on!

"Nothing sounds good anymore" you took the words out of my mouth. I can eat and I do eat but it is so dang hard trying to decide what to eat!!!! Oh well, this is soooooooo much better than wanting to eat EVERYTHING right???? Mandy

It seems odd doesn't it? I mean to be the opposite of what you were before. I guess it's a bit of an identity crisis. Deciding what to eat is the hardest part. Then, once I decide, I might take one bite and think....ugh I don't want this. Rachael

Hey Rachael - I'm having a hard time too. I've been thinking about it a lot lately, especially with Thanksgiving and Christmas coming up. My usual way of "celebrating" or comforting myself involves eating carb-loaden foods. I still crave them, and don't crave the things I should be craving. I'm not sure how this Thanksgiving will go - I will be going back east to see family, and you know how that goes (no stress at all) . They are all in love with food too. You are not alone! I think it will get better after the holidays are over. Take care, Heather