Am I just Being Paranoid????

Ok everyone, I need some advice desperately. I work in a warehouse where there are a lot of people . I am in Loss Prevention so therefore I am around everyone and I interact with all of them. This is my dilemma. Before I had WLS I was very shy and would never think to just stop and talk to someone I never knew. Insecure I guess I would say. Afraid of what that person would think of me or say about me etc. now that I have lost the weight I do have a lot more self confidence and I am not afraid to get out and talk and interact with people. I also no that I look pretty damn good for a woman that is just about to turn 50 in about 2 years!! No, I am not trying to be conceded..The problem is I have a few guys that I feel like are hitting on me. they are quit younger than me and not at all my type. Actually I had one of them tell me I needed to stop going to another associates desk and talking to them. he then came up here later tonight ot my desk and said I told you not to make me jealous. And then laughed and walked away. Also when I was out on the floor earlier and he spied me he said there is my special girl and he also wants to bring lunch to me on Saturdday. I am now finding myself avoiding his dept. b/c of this. I don't want to make it out to be more than maybe what it is but I don't know. I guess what i am trying to say is I am not used to be treated nice like that where peoplepay attention to me. So am I just being paranoid or should I have reason to be concerned. I am not interested at all and I do have afiancee at home. Please help!!! Thank you so much I am getting very nervous and scared about this. PS I also don't want to start something and get someone in trouble if it is just me being paranoid...... Dawn 225/154

Hi Dawn! Wow, that sounds like a dilema! You could try saying "Wow, with all this attention you're paying me, my fiance is going to start getting jealous!" Maybe that would gently remind him that you are not available. Good luck and let us know what happens! Deanna

I dont think your being paranoid and I totally agree with Deanna and her way to deal with it.

Any unwanted attention is just that - unwanted. So no you are not being paranoid. I think Deanna's advice was very good. BUT, if he doesn't get the hint, and you still feel concerned, I advise that you talk to your HR department and ask their advice. It's part of thier job. Just because you are not used to dealing with attention does not mean you have to put up with it. It sounds like more than just mild attention to me. You say you are feeling very nervous and scared...trust your feelings & instincts. Hope it gets sorted. If you cause offence, it's better than feeling scared. He'll get over it - you've got to live with it.