I hate my Dr.---A visit to my PCP

Hello all! Last week I had a follow-up appt. with my regular doctor. I have been looking forward to getting on the scale since my husband hid my 2 scales from me. I asked him to do this, as I was making myself miserable weighing every day and not losing like I wanted to. The office scale showed me to be 4 pounds more than I was and I was upset before even seeing the doctor. My blood pressure, blood sugar and recent blood work all came back normal which was a plus. Health wise, I am doing well. My doctor came in and told me that she was "disappointed" that I had only lost 3 pounds since our last appt. almost 4 weeks ago. She then told me to be careful and that if I start gaining weight that I will be in the "same place that I started" which really upset me. I didn't gain weight! Just having another stall. I felt the need to defend myself by telling her that I was down 65 pounds from the pre-op diet till now, my diabetes is gone and I am half way to my medical goal weight. I also added that I went from a size 22/24 to a 12/14 that I am wearing now. She then said "thats not good enough you should be in a size 6/8". She then added that I need to keep away from sugar. What a stupid comment as I have been sugar-free for more than 8 years due to my diabetes. Personally, I feel great at this weight, I realize that its not thin by any means but I have more energy and stamina than I have had in years. I also had to hear about someone that she knew who lost 135 pounds.......At this point I didn't give a @#$%^ about her friend or anything else she had to say. I left my doctor's office feeling completely defeated and a bariatric failure. I luckily had my support group a day later and discussed these feelings at length. I think a Dr. should realize that this surgery is more complex than the numbers on a scale and what an emotional journey that it is for us. So anyway....thanks for letting me vent about this, it has been on my mind for days now.---Take Care, Suzette---

You have got to be kidding you are doing great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm at a loss for words, Suzette. Of all people that should be supportive, understanding, motivational and CARING. How long have you been seeing your PCP? Do you have a good relationship established with him/her? If so, I think you should discuss the conversation with him/her and let them know that it was not positive in any fashion. If not, maybe it's time you start to look for a new one. If they had known ANYTHING about the surgery they would have know that weight loss is DRASTIC at first and at 3-5 months out stall's are very common. The fact that you've lost and not remained is a defeat in itself. It's a good thing he/she isn't my doctor -I would have gone off and told them where to go (only after crying and having made me feel like crap). I'm so sorry that you had such a rough appointment. I'm sure your support group was understanding and offered some great support.

Thanks Megan for the kind words. I have been with the doctor for about a year and she has helped with the problems I was having getting my blood sugar under control. In this way, she is a "good" doctor. She is so insensitive to the overall emotional effects of obesity as a disease as well as lacking knowledge about the medical aspect. We are already so hard on ourselves for being overweight, getting such negative feedback from a health professional makes me even more critical of myself . I will consider going to another Dr. after my next visit in 4 weeks for my iron levels. I have a friend who had an RNY 2 years ago and uses this Dr. also. She refuses to get on the scale for her anymore maybe I will do the same. --Take Care--Suzette--

I just want to SCREAM! I feel so bad for you and so totally pissed off at the doctor. what a complete unmidigated ass. she has no business talking, she has constipation of the brain and diareahea of the mouth. I would switch doctors. you are doing FANTASTIC. your body is SUPPOSED to stall, that is how it stays healthy. you should not be in a size 6/8. she should be in a straight jacket and not allowed to talk. as 12/14 is perfectly fine and my final goal. actually a 10/12 but if I can only get into a 12/14 after 5 kids I am not going to beat myself up and she really needs some realistic goals! what a female canine!!! 135 lbs in how many months? we are only 4 months out, 65 lbs is TOTALLY AUSOME and she can kiss yours and my derierre! she is so lucky that she didnt say that to me, I would have given her a total female dog slapping, she would have found her self in the middle of next week when she woke up! what a hoochie! YOUR DOING FANTASTIC!!!! Kat [Photographer & Mom of 5] [[ Some people are like slinkies, they don't really have a purpose, but they still bring a smile to your face when you push them down the stairs.]] 275/247/190/150 -- just OVERWEIGHT!!!

Suzette - How awful you must have felt!!!!! But you ARE DOING GREAT! She just is SO WRONG!!!!! Do not let this discourage you. You need to copy everyones responses and send them to her. She had NO RIGHT to downgrade your success like that!!!! You health issues are great also!! Along with your weight loss!! Tell her to go take a flying leap!! She better be glad Kat is not her patient!! Size 6/8 in 3 months - Yea right!! A size 12/14 would be just fine for me to end up in. I am glad you had a support group to go to the next day. Keep up the good work! You are not a bariatric failure - if you are then we all are!!!! And we know we aren't!! Love, Hugs and Prayers, Darlene

Well i think your doing awesome and sorry your doctor put you thru that!! THIS isnt an easy journey !!! KEEP UP the happy attitude! YOUR PICS look awesome! YOUR LOOEING and stalls happen! hugs lisa

Thanks so much Lisa for the encouraging response!!! Will I see you at the support meeting at Stacy's this Tuesday? Hope so ....--Suzette--

YES Suzette im hopeing that nothing gets in my way and that i can attend the support meeting and Stacy's. I havent been free for support meetings for months now I REALLY NEED ONE! hope to meet you there in person hugzzzzzzzzzzzz lisa