At this time last year I was......

I was getting ready to meet my surgeon. I had to go through a seminar he put on that was 4 hours long and it made me have second thoughts about having the surgery but after consulting with my parents and my best friend I decided that I needed to do something for myself for once and have the surgery. I will never forget the doubts I had but don't look back and just look forward. I am finally doing something that will have long lasting results on my life. Of course I still have problems with emotional eating but my therapist and I are talking about it and he is letting me borrow his book Love Hunger. I am getting a lot out of the book and can say that now instead of eating when I want to I journal or something like that. I think I'm a happier person now and know that my best friend is noticing it too. My best friend is a guy and I have this huge crush on him. I think that now I'm getting more self assured its making me more attractive to him and he's wanting to be around me. He still doesn't have the way that I eat all understood like when we go out to dinner and I order a water but don't drink it he laughs and says why order it if ya ain't gonna drink it. I was told that if you don't have a drink that the server could get in trouble so I order water and then just don't drink it or give to my mom if she's with me. I always thank him for lunch and supper and supper. I do think that maybe there is a future there for me and Rex...I'll keep ya updated. I am noticing that now I am happier and find myself smiling more. Now if I could just learn to look at people when they talk. Jan

Hi Jan, I was just reading your post and realized that we have the same surgery date! From the looks of your profile, it sounds like you are doing an incredible job! You must be so proud of yourself! The book your therapist is having you read sounds great. I'm going to have to look for it. When I read about you not looking at people when they talk -- it struck a bell with me. Lately, I've noticed that I do the same thing. I don't make eye contact with people as much as I want to. I can go through an entire transaction at a store without even glancing at the person. I'm nice to them, but I don't even look at them! So, I'm making it a point to work on that. It does have to do with confidence, and we should have all the confidence in the world in ourselves! Congratulations on your surgiversary coming up! Angie

Good for you Jan...I think the book you mentioned "Love Hunger" is something I need to read about now. Thanks for mentioning it. I have always been very outgoing, so WLS hasn't changed me that much in that area, but, I've sure seen changes in some of the folks in my support group...good for you! Lori

Jan, I couldn't find a book called "Love Hunger", is that the title? Who is the author? Thanks in advance. Lori

It's called Love Hunger, Recovering from Food Addiction. Its by Dr. Frank Minirth, Dr. Paul Meier, Dr. Robert Hemfelt, Dr. Sharon Sneed. What I have read is really good. Jan