Slipping? (long-winded!)

Have you read any of Geneen Roth's books. They are very good for compulsive overeaters. OA is another option. I have attended in the past, but was viewing it more as a diet, not as a 12-step program to deal with an addiction. I have toyed with going back. We'll see. Hang in there, J

Oops, me again. Geneen does have a website - geneenroth.com. So does OA - oa.org. J

I am so happy to see what people have been posting. It looks like all of us Maysters on are a plateau together and the weight is coming off slow for ALL of us. It doesnt make me feel so alone anymore. Melissa 312.5/206.5/150

Hi everyone. Jem, thanks so much for posting your note and to everyone else for their responses. It's helps to know that I'm not along in my struggle. I'm also in the same boat - 93 lbs down and losing very slowly now. I guess that's to be expected but some days are so very frustrating. I guess we just need to keep focused and take each day one at a time. Thanks to everyone for all their continued love, support and truth. Cindee

Jem, Thanks to you and all the others who have replied for articulating exactly what I am experiencing. I was starting to feel like I was the only non-compliant WLSer. Yes, it is a struggle EVERY DAY. It is a struggle every day for anyone recovering from an addiction. We all need to take a page from AA - ONE DAY AT A TIME (or even one hour at a time). This will never be easy. The easy way is to just chuck it all and go back to life as we used to live it. Now that we have had a taste of a thinner, healthier, energized body, who the hell wants to go back? Take care, J 292/190/155

Jenny, You are so right - one day at a time - I don't ever want to go back to before WLS. We all have new lives now. Thanks for making me sit up and realize what great things we have all accomplished. Have a good one. Cindee

{{ raises hand }} Me, too!! I actually got out a measuring cup this AM to measure my 1 oz. of FF Half and Half for my tea. I am on call for my work and was paged awake at 3 AM this morning. As I was fixing the database problem that paged me, I felt a distinctive grumbling in my belly. Hungry!! I'd *never* been hungry in early morning before. And I'm entering every bite into FitDay. I've had some grazing problems in the afternoons, too. I want to lose 30 more pounds, I really do. Don't know if it will happen. Eileen

Just a quick reply before I head off to work. My weight loss pattern for months has been weight loss for a week (if I'm lucky), then three weeks of absolutely no loss at all. I would think this might be hormonal, except I had a hysterectomy many years ago, and have no idea what my cycles are like, or even if I'm in menopause yet. Mentally I could accept these plateaus, IF I knew that each one would eventually end. However, every time a plateau begins, I start obsessing if this will be when "the magic of surgery" ends. What if I never lose another pound, no matter how little I eat, or how much I exercise? Only someone who has had surgery could understand this. When I talk about my fears with my friends, none of whom who have had surgery, they just try to reassure that the weight will come off. Luckily for me, the scale is in it's week of dropping phase, so at least for this month, the magic is still there. Debra M. 351/212/150

Thank you to everyone *****sponded here--I guess misery really does love company! Thanks also Kathy for pointing out that this may be a typical "adjustment" time our bodies need after losing so much weight so quickly. That really resonated with me. It seems like a lot of us are now just starting to really struggle with the psychological addiction to food--I know that I felt like I had my head on straight a lot earlier than this, but it is really easy to be fooled into thinking we're "cured" of our bad habits when everything is going good--it's the choices we make when everything is really crappy that really show our true convictions! I like that a lot of people pointed out the AA/OA/addiction factor--taking it one day at a time. I am trying to continually remind myself to be the "best Jem I can be" every day, knowing that some days, the best I can be isn't that great...but I'm only human. Failing at this surgery doesn't mean making a mistake. Failing at this means making a mistake and not learning from it, not moving on--getting right back on the bandwagon and trying again--and doing that every single day. After all, can you imagine where we would be if we stopped trying the first time we tried to walk as toddlers? I think we're always going to make mistakes and have bad days, it is just making sure we have more good days then bad that keep us in check. Because one of the commenters was a "newbie", I was inspired to look at the February 2005 message board and see if they had any good advice. Take a look at this thread: http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/02-2005/postdetail/4804.html?vc=0. The woman writing says that after a plateau lasting from November (their 9th month) to January (month 11), she lost several pounds. The rest of the group chimes in that they too have recently lost weight after long plateaus. While we can't physically time travel, isn't nice to know that we'll be starting a similar thread soon talking about busting our plateaus?? Thanks again! Jem 327/203/164

Thanks for posting that thread. Gives me hope that maybe I'll have a good month soon. I usually do look on the posts a few months further out but I haven't in quite some time. BTW, you are doing great girl! You're almost in onederland!