Weird Wow Moment...

Let me tell you about this akward wow moment. I was on a date last nite... with someone I am very attracted to...ladies, let me just tell you he has it going on...dayum...but anyway we're at Houilihans, sitting at the bar grooving to 80's music, when we strike up a convo with the bartender. Turns out he's an aspiring stand up comic So he starts telling jokes...and you know eventually we got to fat jokes, and I wanted to . I felt more insecure and uncomfortable last nite, then I would have if I was still obose. For some reason I felt so humiliated. I can't explain why I felt this way...I mean it was almost like an out of body experience, almost like...we'll there are no fat people around so let me tell this joke, but I think in my head I'll forever be fat. So it was a wow moment in the sense, that people don't see me as obese anymore. Thanks for letting me share

Definitely a weird wow moment! In your place, I'm not sure I would have wanted to ... I think I might have wanted to the bartender. Obesity is the most common and accepted of the prejudices. Personally, that bartender would have been telling jokes out his arse when I was done with him - or so I'd like to think anyway. Yes, on a date one is trying to put one's best foot forward and stuff but... Share anytime, babe! Kathy

You know I couldn't even be mad...I was so hurt...I dunno, but yeah he deserved a slap!

Being an SB, I may actually be ALL TALK. I know .... GASP! I'd like to think I'd get up and defend obese folks but in reality I might just smile and twitter a bit and be mortified and not say a damn thing and yes go home feeling hurt and offended. Kathy

I know how you felt. I was in the mall on Wednesday, and these two overweight ladies were walking ahead of me. There were these two young guys standing around and as they walked by they made this "mooing sound" then one of the guys said, I bet she smells bad, too" Well, I gave them this look. What my teens call "mean mugging". He quickly said, oh we weren't talking to you Ms. I said it still wasn't a nice thing to say. They mumbled something else and walked in the opposite direction. Mentally, I think I will always be fat. Even when I look in the mirror now, I still see myself as the same size. When I go into a store I automatically still go to size 20. But it still hurt in a way to hear them say those things I guess because I know how it feels and it wasn't that long ago that that kind of remark would/could have been directed toward me.

that is funny Vicky

We're far more sensitive to weight issues....just like someone who has, for instance, has a sibling who has cerebral palsy. You can't tell they have this sibling by looking at them but they would never feel comforatable hearing jokes about them. Weight will always be a part of us and we will NEVER make fun of someone or not sympathise with someone who has a weight problem. We're certainly better people for that! It is a WOW mement when other people don't see us as fat anymore! Other than that, how was the date? Sue McD

LOL, the date was fabulous...he's my future husband...only he doesn't know it yet...hehe

Woo Hoo, Aliya found a man too! Should we have a double wedding? But seriously isnt it great! Cary

See Cary, it would have been great had he called me this weekend...MEN!!!