Prejudice!!!
Okay, someone tell me if you can relate with this. When I was heavy I naturally got treated different by alot of people, almost disrespectful sometimes. Now, at Peter Hut last night I notice this lady at a table there with a bunch of her family. I used to work with her at Winn Dixie a couple of years ago and she was always trying to hug on me and stuff, I guess she liked me cause she is very heavy and I was too. So I go up to her table and say "Hi! Remember me"..well first she says "Lisa"!..but after kinda really looking at me, she turned from day to night??? Wasn't friendly at all. Didn't mention my weightloss or nothing. Even on her way out I tried to say something to her and she kind of gave me the cold shoulder and acted like she couldn't wait to get out of my presence??? This confuses me so. Just because I am not heavy anymore does not entitle me to treat heavy people different but I guess the same standards I have just doesn't apply to others. Just wanted to vent about that!!!
I've had similar experience, and felt just as stung. Is it possible, though, that she was more embarassed than anything? I know before I lost weight, if I ran into a friend who used to be as big as me who later was looking so great and so much thinner, I probably would have been embarrassed and felt even worse about myself.
Regardless her motivation, don't let her attitude take away from all the great success you've had!
Lisa, this has happened to me but in a different way. One of my best friends who is a size 8 is having a really hard time with my loss. She now sees me as competition for the attention of everyone from her 2 yr old daughter to her hubby to my own kids. I just backed off from her and not let her rain on my parade. I am proud of what I have accomplished. Don't let this person rain on yours. Keep on truckin.
Kat
It is amazing how many have issues with "others" weight loss. Everything from losing an *eating buddy* to losing the *fat friend* that makes them feel smaller and better about themselves. Isn't it interesting how insecure some folks are? And as heavy folks, we were supposed to be the people with self-esteem issue? Ironic, eh?
Luckily, I have not felt any vibes or dealt with any reactions that have been negative from family, friends, coworkers, etc.
In the past, I'm sure I felt bad about myself when someone else around me had great success losing weight. But I certainly didn't shun them, lessen their joy, put down their success, etc... It was more of an internal thing.
Kathy
I've had a couple of similar experiences & I know how much they bothered me at the time they happened. It's good to vent & fortunately the bad feelings about the situation passes quickly!
A more recent situation I had reminds me who are "real friends" are & always will be. When I was at my heaviest, a former co-worker returned to visit at work after losing about 100 pounds. She looked fantastic & I did not hesitate to be among those who complimented & congratulated her; in fact I was probably one of the most enthusiastic in my praises. I saw her the other day (it's been about 8 years) & she's re-gained all her weight & then some & she completely ignored me. I greeted her by name & when she gave me a blank stare & told her who I was. She replied in the coldest tone, "Yeah, I know who you are." That was it!
Some people are just plain miserable about the good fortune of others & in my opinion, they're not even worth our concern. It will probably happen again & believe me, it gets easier with each occurrance.
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