Let me vent please!

Dear Mayers, It has been along time since I have posted. I guess I really just want to vent. I feel like I have destroyed what I worked so hard to achieve. I worked really hard at my weight loss the first few months, but after my 3 month check up something happened to me maybe mentally after the disappointment from my surgeon and nutritionist in my achievement I started beating myself up. I mean they didn't even care enough to notate my correct weight. Anyway I am a self sabotager, I sabotage everything that is good in my life. I don't exercise anymore, I make excuses for everything as you can see. How can someone like me have success with wls? I have read post from people who would give anything to have this surgery and after all that hard work that I did I am destroying my blessing. I just don't get it, what can do to change this behavior? Am I the only one that is going through this? I want to get back on the wagon so bad but I just can't seem to get the motivation that I once had. Thanks for letting me vent. Andrea

Hi Andrea, vent all you want. They say it takes 21 days to make a habit. So, you need to make yourself get back on that horse. It will be a struggle, but you can do it. Your motivation will start to come back but it will take some fortitude. I still hate the exercise but I really enjoy the weight loss. I have to force myself everyday to do the exercise and when I'm doing it, when I want to quit, I make a deal with myself and say "ok, you can quit in 5 more minutes". I make myself do a little more each day until I'm working out at least 1 hr/day. I actually feel much better afterwards, knowing that I did something for ME! Start doing something slow and easy, even if it's just a stroll and put all negative thoughts aside. Take your mind off the exercise and think about something nice. Eventually, it will become a habit. Take it one day at a time, don't beat yourself up with whatever happened in the past, focus on today! You can do it! I listen to good uplifting music when I exercise (like "You Will Survive), something fast and uplifting. Donna Summers has some great music to exercise to, by the way. Another piece of advice, forget about what others have to say. When it comes right down to it, the only opinion that matters is yours! Do it for YOU! Throw that negatism out the door!

Andrea, Vent here anytime you need to! We all struggle in different ways. I know it's challenging, but you have identified the areas you want to change. I think getting back on the horse is good advice. Try taking it one day at a time, or one hour at a time if that helps. When you make a little mistake, don't beat yourself up. You are not perfect. None of us are. It's important to love yourself and accept when you make a mistake and just vow to move on from there. You can do this. Feel free to email me or post here anytime you need to. Together we can all succeed at this! Keep smiling! ~Wanda

Hey Andrea, (((Hugs))). I think I undertsand hor you feel. Can you be a little specific about what exactly is going on? I like what Linda said about the 21 days to make a habit. When I recently posted about falling off, a lot of the responsed were: "you can do this, you're going through a hard time right now, but it will get better". So I say the same to you. Take care girlfriend. Aliya

Andrea, I'm a chronic self-sabotager as well, but, for some reason, this time, I keep thinking, "this time has to be different, you risked your life for this!" And it is working. I struggle getting out of bed to go to the gym at 5:30 am every morning, but, boy do I feel good afterwards! Hang in there baby! We can do this! Lori 384/294/170

Andrea Vent away girl! The thing you have to remember about the Doc and Nut is that they really don't care how you are doing. I know it sounds harsh and some cant believe it but if everyday everyone they saw they took a complete vested intrest in they would be burnt out. Let the success you know you have acheived motivate you, forget what they have to say or not say! Jen

I want to thank my fellow mayers for all your advice and support. I will take it one day at a time. I know I can't do anything through Christ and I rely heavly on Him right now. Thanks again for everyone's support. Andrea

I am sorry I meant to say..... I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Andrea

We knew what you were trying to say... I'm a competitive person and sometimes when I see people post bigger losses I get mad at myself. Something I say to myself now and again is... "it's a journey, not a race"... Hang in there.... "thou we walk thru the valley...." Kate Z

Please please don't take this the wrong way. My surgeon highly recommended seeking psychological help for a while after surgery, because we might experience feelings of loss and depression. Some people use food as their best friend, and no longer have that comfort. People also hide other issues behind their fat, and when that fat starts to disappear, there's no place to hide. This website is always a big help too!