A very hard day for me....
I can sit here and sympathize along with you in a similar way. I lost my mother in law 1 year and 1 day before I had my surgery. My husband, being an only child, took her death hard, but very well. I, on the other hand, took it as best as I knew how, and was scared to death on having the surgery, but went on ahead and left the rest of it in God's hands. I know your mother would still be proud of you no matter what. She's probably up there cheering you right on. There is not a day that goes by without me having to sit and think of something that triggers my thoughts and fond memories of my mother in law. Even though it may seem a bit hard at times, I'd like to encourage you to keep up the good work.