Leaving...

I have to agree with Julie. I think there are struggles for all of us when somthing finally goes well we are so happy we want to share. You havent updated your profile in a while so I am not sure where you are in your weight loss battle but I am sure you are down from where you started just remember those are pounds gone forever! (someone else told me that once). I think leaving is the wrong thing to do, when your down is when you need the support the most. Are there any local groups you can join to help? I hope things get better for you. Cary

I guess I am one of the guilty ones who has tooted my own horn without thinking of the people who are having complications and slower weight loss, but as Vicki said I cant be sorry for it. This is the very first time in my adult life that I have felt this good about myself and my life. I worked so hard to get my surgery approved and at times felt like giving up. But I promised myself if I got approved I was going to work like heck and make this tool work for me. I feel blessed that I have been a fast loser with very few complications. But that doesnt mean I dont have compassion for those whose road has been more difficult. We all struggle and stumble at times. But together as a group we can help each other through those times. Posting our success here is sometimes the only place we feel comfortable doing so. Even those of us who are having great success still have problems. Every day when I take a shower handfulls of hair are going down the drain.. I get upset when I think maybe it wont stop and one day I am going to look like Mr Clean. But I try to keep going on and keeping a positive attitude. And I know if I am down, one of my OH sister/ brothers are going to be there to help pick me up, or give me a kick in the butt to motivate me to pull myself up. Leaving is not the answer.. Stick around and share your feelings. You just might be helping someone else out, but knowing they are not alone. We all have a purpose here in the grand scheme of things. Keep the faith that you are going to accomplish your dream!!!! Hugs, Laura

This might sound harsh.... I dont know, everybody takes things different. This whole thing is a mental struggle. Yea sure i have lost 134 lbs in 4 months, am i happy about that YES. Am i sorry you or others have only lost half of what I have, NO. Am I sorry others including yourself are struggling YES. Why am i not sorry, that others have only lost half of what I have? Because the road i have to travel to get to a so called normal weight is twice to three times that of others. Do you hear me crying that i still have 250lbs more to loose. I would have traded my 604 lbs weight for that of 300-400 lbs and to have only lost 60-70 lbs. I would love to have the lapriscopic scars on my chest instead of an cut from just under my left peck (breast) to my belly button. I would rather not have an apron as big as im going to have when i loose the weight. I think it is selfish to make others feel bad about doing good on their weight loss to make yourself feel better! This is a mental strugle, im fighting my demons all the time, do you think just because i lost the amount of weight i have, I still dont get depressed, and when i get depressed i dont want to cheat. I sure do, but I dont do it. I see the snears, jears the snickers from people, the beep beep sound people make behind me, (old joke beep beep, little kids says to his mother,"watch out mom the big guys backing up"). I do feel sorry you are struggling. I dont know how much you have lost, but it sounds like you are letting the mental demons drag you down. Its a constant battle, you need people to help you get through them. Why do you think those step programs (AA) have sponsers to call. One day im high, the next day im low, i almost feel like a manic depresent sometimes. Are you doing that badly, or just letting the demons drag you down, wispering in your ear, your a failure because you didnt do this and somebody else did? I know from experience that you are reaching out for help by your post. I wish you would find help in your area, somebody to be a buddy and talk to you, counsel you. I am doing the same thing, because i know that even tho i have lost what i have, i still need help. We must be here for each other, not against each other, and shuting yourself off from everybody is only going to depress and anger you even more, believe me I know first hand. Im sorry if this is a harsh letter, try to find the positive in what you are doing or have done so far. Avoid the msgs with headers that look like the one get upset about. Express your feelings, ask questions to your problems, all i ask is dont make others feel bad because they SEEM to be doing good. You need to get a positive outlook on things and derive an energy from that to focus on your goals. Good Luck, I hope you stay, if you dont get someone you can lean on, and forgive me for being harsh. Joe