Anyone sick of talking about it?
WEll, as for me, I haven't really told any of my collegues. I am an assistant principal at a high school and I am always on the go..... So, if people ask me, that knew me before, I just say that I am cutting back and that my job has helped me get off the pounds. Technically, I am not lying to them. I really have cut back!!! Sometimes people at work can be very bold and overbearing; therefore, I just chose not to entertain the thought of people asking questions; so no one knows. Don't get me wrong, I am not ashamed of the choice I made, but I agree with you, work is for work!!!
I don't mind people asking me about the ins and outs of post-op life. However, I HAVE started to get a little touchy about how blatant people are in asking how much weight I've lost, or how much I have left to go. It's kind of like making sure someone is pregnant before you ask how far along they are. It's personal. In most cases, no one would ask a woman how much she weighs.. I've been asked at least five times this week alone.
Ask me about eating habits, exercise, if I feel better, if I regret it (heck no!)... just have a little tact and don't ask for numbers! Sheesh people!
(On a side note, if being asked constantly is my payment for having the surgery, I'll gladly bear it... it just gets frustrating at times.)
I don't mind sharing my story or accepting praise for my weight loss at all. However, I've had a few instances that have irratated me slightly. I've been approached at work with a comment like... "Wow. You've lost weight. What diet are you on now" and I'll explain that after years of failed diets that I chose to have gastric bypass surgery. Then I notice facial expressions or voice tone that do not indicate admiration for my achievement any longer, but now are passing judgement on me for having taken such drastic measures.... like I've cheated or something and that my current regimen of strict diet, exercise, and mental reprogramming don't count for anything. I just smile and answer their questions and realize that I'm not going to try too hard to explain my story to this stick person who could not possibly realize after the years of poor health, depression, and low self opinion that I FEEL BETTER MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY THAN I HAVE IN YEARS AND NO IGNORANT THING YOU HAVE TO SAY WILL BOTHER ME! Ahhhhhh.... sorry, I needed to share that with someone and this felt like the right place.
Hey Aliya,
I know what you mean about word spreading, I only told a select few people that I was having it done yet when I returned to work I was stopped alot by people asking me how I was. I guess for me it doesnt bother me much, I am in sales and I am a very outgoing person I kinda make myself known around my company because I volunteer for everything. Because so many know who I am I guess when they hear what you have done its human nature to ask you about it. As a rule I dont mind talking about it but I do sometimes feel like a broken record. The ones who bother me are the ones who think they know what you should or shouldnt be doing now that you had the surgery. Every doc is different and I feel like I am under a microscope with every bite I take. I have inspired at least one other person to have the surgery and that feels great. Another wants it but her surgical nurse sister is telling her not to, which seems crazy to me! All in all I dont mind just dont ask me how much I weigh thats still as private as it was before geesh!
Cary
I love that people are noticing, but it can get really, really annoying when the same people ask "How much have you lost now?" every single time you see them. I snapped at one last week and felt sorta bad. She asked me on Tuesday the "how much" question and I had just seen her on Sunday! I snapped "How much do you think I could possibly lose since the day before yesterday"??
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