HELP PLEASE!!!!

Hi guys, I know I dont write often but i really need some help. I have been really depressed the last few days and now yesterday and today I really ate nothing. Today I have two protien bars, water, crystal light, and some goldfish crackers. I dont know how to get myself out of this rut. I went for an apt that i really fell in love with and wanted cause I am married with a child and I am living back in my parents house and I have to get out of this house,,,, I didnt get the apt and i cried for like an hr. I am just so down in the dumps on how my life is going nothing ever goes the way I need it to..and now that I am just dont want to eat I dont know what to do,, I am really upset. can anyone help me figure out how to get out of this rut how do I get myself to want to start eating again. I just dont want to... i am sorry to dump on you guys I just dont know where else to turn noone else cares. thanks Michelle 267/221/140

First of all (((((MICHELLE)))))) I'm sorry that you're having a rough time. Depression is a ***** I've dealt with it before and I know how rough it can be. My suggestion would be to eat EVEN IF YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE IT. But, only when you're supposed to. Take long walks. Talk to friends (and keep writing to us!!) or a counselor. We care!! Michelle

Michelle It is so hard to see the silver lineing (sp) when everything seems to be so bad, but just stick with it and it will work out for the best. Maybe there is a better apartment just around the corner. If you like dogs, what I do sometimes is go to the shelter and take a stray for a nice long walk. It helps clear my head and makes the dog happy to. Somehow the animal shelter puts my life in perspective. Hope today goes better, and try to eat! Jen

Hi Michelle, This is probably the line that most people don't want to hear, but an occasional bout of depression is normal for WLS patients. Let me tell you a little something for all its worth. Whenever my husband and I want something really bad (apt, car, etc.) we always ask God to allow us to have it if its his Will. Then we know if we get it, then things will turn out good. If its not his Will then we know that it wasn't meant to be and we will see the reason somewhere down the road. Believe me, this has happened for us many times and we always Thank God that he prevented us from attaining something because we would have regretted it in the long run. Trust me on this. And as far as your life not ever going the way that you want it to....how about your surgery? There are so many folks out there right now who are devastated because they cannot have this surgery because of financial reasons, no insurance or because they are rejected by surgeons, so consider yourself blessed that you were able to have the surgery. I agree with Michelle (and her surgeon) because mine has basically said the same thing. If you can only get a few things down, then eat them. It is better than starvation. Even my nutritionist said that when I told her a month or so ago I was practically living on Wheat Thins with Creme Cheese. I thought I was going to have to live the rest of my life like that. But now, I have so many other choices available that I can tolerate (and some I still can't!). Just remember, many of us "do" care about you, or we wouldn't even bother replying to your post. You can always count on your WLS buddies! Take care and "dump" on us anytime....better than dumping in the toilet!!!!

Michelle, It may sound too simple to work, but put your problem's into God's (or whatever your higher power may be) hands. There is a plan to all of this. You are never alone. I have gone thru depression and nothing going my way too. Haven't we all? This too shall pass. And on the bright side, you have lost 46 lbs!!!!!!!!! Great for you. As for the eating, keep trying. A little bit is better than nothing at all. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hang in there! Chris 247/188/140ish

Oh Michelle, I can totally relate to the depression. I wish I could give you a hug! I know when I get overwhelmed, I have to make a conscious effort to both eat AND drink (I've gone a whole day without eating at all!). I can only imagine how tough it must be for your family to be living with your parents. You will get through this. This apartment didn't work out because there is something BETTER out there for you, your spouse and your child. Sending positive vibes your way, Diane

Hey Michele, Hugs to you, so sorry that you are feeling down. I agree with Diane...let go and let GOD...but sweetie you need to eat. How about 2 protein drinks and a meal. Are you taking your vitamins, and staying hydrated? I know its tough, be we don't want to make the situation any worse...Stay strong sweetie, and you post whatever you need, whenever you need! We are here for you! Aliya

Michelle, So sorry to hear about your depression. I know how difficult that can be. I am going to keep you in my prayers and encourage you to keep the faith. I know that you will get through this, and all of us are here to help you through it. I don't have a lot of specific help for you, but please know I'm here if you need a shoulder to lean on or someone to listen. Hugs, Wanda

Michelle, I think we all go through the depression stage. Specially when are lives are upside down. What I do, and have been doing since my surgery is work on getting through this one minute then this one hour then this one day. What I can't cover I give to God to cover for me. Not eating is not the answer. Trust me it can lead to so many other issues that you don't want to face. Eat anything as long as you get something down. At 267 pounds not eating was not a big issue. But after the surgery it is a huge issue. I am guilty of skipping meals also. Mine is for different reasons. Still amounts to the same thing. A really bad idea. IF you don't do this for youself, do it for your child. We are always here for you. If you need us just holler. Sending you huge hugs and prayers that it will get better. Kat

YOU ARE ALL THE SWEETEST MORE CARING PEOPLE, THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR KIND WORDS AND ENCOURAGEMENT REALLY.... THANK YOU. IT MEANS ALOT TO KNOW I HAVE PEOPLE THAT CAN UNDERSTAND WHAT I AM GOING THROUGH. I WILL KEEP YOUALL POSTED, THANK YOU I HAVE STARTED EATING AGAIN SO WE ARE MAKING PROGRESS,,, THANKS AGAIN HUGS AND KISSES BACK TO YOU ALL TAKE CARE MICHELLE