Been MIA

Hey gang, Just wanted to let you know I'm still alive and try to at least lurk on the board once everyday. I've got a lot going on right now and think I'm beginning to experience some depression. I plan on talking to my doc about it soon... My surgery for the cervical cancer is Sept. 28th - I opted not to have the hysterectomy because I can't afford to be off my feet that long... Thinking back, I may have already posted about that. My weightloss is going well, but it seems like the most significant loss is right before/during my period. I lose the rest of the month but it's very slow. I'm okay with that, though. My exercise is non-existent. With school starting for both me and my son, work, etc., I just haven't made it a priority. I'm going to try to start going back to the gym at least twice a week, starting this week. I know that would help with the weightloss. I've also fallen off the tobacco wagon. Again. I'm so at myself. I can't believe I've done that. It's like "congratulations, you have cancer, smoke a cigarette!" So, add that to my list of things I need to straigten out, as well. In addition, my DH and I have hit somewhat of a rough spot. We're currently working on sorting things out and will begin marriage counseling soon. I don't think it's a direct result of the WLS as so many of us are told to be careful of, but I'm sure there's some residual effects. Right now, I'm kinda on the fence about what's going to happen, but I want to work hard to get through this before considering any alternatives. Anyway, even though my posts have been few and far between, just wanted to let you know I'm around. Everyone looks and sounds so great, I'm so proud of all your new "Wow moments", successes and celebrations. Take care everyone! The silent one

Hey Becky, don't be so hard on yourself. You are going through an awful lot right now and have the added stress with school starting/relationship trouble. It can be overwhelming. So you slipped, it's not the end of the world. You have plenty of time to make it right again. When trying to change too many things at once, we can sometimes fail. Just try to put things in perspective and figure out what one thing is most important and needs your attention most. Work on that, then move onto the next. You are a strong person, you've proved that already, everything will work out for you. Good luck & take care, Carol

Becky, When I was going through my breast cancer experience and treatments, I had to go on Prozac. It really helped me. I'm actually still on it. I feel so good I don't want to mess around with it. My surgeon also told me that since depression is such a common side effect of WLS that this is not the right time anyway. Anyway, just in case you may need it. Lori 384/313/170

Becky, So sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult time...my prayers, and best wishes for you...

Hi Becky.... I just wanted to wish you luck with the cervical cancer and with your husband. You are doing great keep up the good work. I know what you mean about the depression and things aren't that bad for me. Keep being the strong woman that you are!!! *HUGS* Stef

Hey Becky, so good to hear from you again! I have been thinking about you and keeping you in my prayers. I think depression after WLS is suppose to be normal and add on top of that what else you are going through and it is understandable what you are dealing with. I have found in the last few days that I have been very inpatient with Jacob and very nasty to my husband. Sometimes my stress is so bad and then Jacob makes me so mad I have to literally put him in another room so I don't do anything I would regret. I have also been grazing alot. Sometimes I get scared that I am still using old habits for boredom, stress, depression whatever. I will pray for you and you can pray for me.

Becky, Prayers are being sent your way right now. You have so much going on right now, please be sure to take care of YOU. Let us know how we can help you. You will get through all of this, but I know I can't begin to imagine how you must feel right now. Please consider yourself officially hugged by me! ~Wanda

I was just thinking about you, Becky. Biggest of hugs to you. You have an awful lot on your *plate* (so to speak) right now. Just do what you can to take care of your depression and your health issues. Exercise will help with the depression. Honest. If you have trouble getting to the gym...get some hand weights. I sit and use them in front of the boob tube. Exercise is exercise, right? You take good care of yourself and please post when you can. We are here for ya! Hugs, Kathy

Know that you're thought of and cared about every day. Julie

Becky With all that's going on right now, I think you're doing great!! You and your family are under a lot of stress right now. And honestly, I'm working through depression (and I don't have any extreme situations). I'm glad that you're talking with your doctor about it. Not only is it related to wls, but geeeeze you've just had the C word thrown at you too!!!! Give you and your husband some extra time and a lot of grace right now. He just got through you having major surgery and now there's a more dangerous concern. I'm sure he's scared beyond what he can express to you. You both are dealing with a lot right now. I'm thinking about you!!!! You keep you chin up girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Laurie