Whats up with me?

Okay my buds...help me here. Why is it that any attention I get now from someone (especially) of the male persuasion...it is making me want to crawl in a shell? You would think I would like it but it makes me uncomfortable? Probably has alot to do with why I got myself overweight in the first place..(past issues)...so I kept myself unattractive. Can anyone relate??

I'm not used to male attention, so last time I lost a lot of weight, I started liking the attention TOO much and got in wayyy over my head. This time, like you, I'm a lot more reserved and shy about the attention. I think perhaps I'm hesitant to believe anyone that I'm interested in would find ME attractive. I'm used to admiring from a distance. Besides, I'm determined not to leap at a guy just because he flatters me...this time! Jules

It seems that our minds need to catch up with our bodies! Even though we look better on the outside we are all still just babies (3mos or so) and need to get all our "stuff" together. I also feel that attention from the opposite sex just because I have lost a little weight isnt really that flattering. I would rather that a friend or family worker notices it and says something positive. Those strangers eyeing me up don't know a thing about me. I know people who have lost major amounts of weight and still feel unattractive. It is such a mind game. Jen

I have not had any guys checking me out yet, but I do know what you mean. Some days I really like the compliments and some days I dont. I appreciate them either way and I dont know why I dont like hearing them sometimes. One thing that everyone at work has been doing is calling me "skinny", I say "Thanks, but not quite yet!", they laugh and insist that I am.

I don't know about others, but I feel this way, if they didn't pay attention to me the way I looked before then they are only looking skin deep. With losing weight, I am doing it for me, I can feel good and be healthier for me, so when people start paying attention to me after I lose my weight are they looking at the person I am and have always been or are they looking just at the way I look on the outside. If these people didn't give you the time of day before you lost your weight then I would think twice at why they are looking now, even though I know hehehe we are all knock outs now and like the attention, ok ok I am babbling, Make yourself attractive fo you don't worry about others if someone says wow you look great or if you dont want the attention get a engagment ring and put it on your finger let them wonder hehehehe ok ok I quite {{{{ }}}} just be yourself and enjoy the new you.