a new me

Ok so it's 2 months since my surgery and I have lost 46lbs and down 2 sizes.....and with these changes I have discovered some things about me....and I have discovered that maybe I don't like who I was before surgery. I have discovered a new self respect and it's very strange...I wonder if anyone else has discovered this or other things now that they are post op......I love everyone here it is so great to have a wls family where you can share and know others may be going through the same thing....Thank you to each and every one of you. ~Melissa 346/300/

Not yet. Any sense of self esteem or self worth still eludes me. I need professional help in that department. I am happy for you, though. Good luck on your continued journey! Hugs, Tracy

Thanks Tracy...you are doing awesome girl....glad we are here together hugs ~Melissa

I was just thinking about this yesterday. I too have found a new self respect for myself! I'm not completely comfortable with myself, but I do feel a little bit better about how I look when I leave out of the house in the mornings. It's very strange to me. Also, I've noticed that I'm getting compliments on the way I look more often now. This is VERY strange to me. I haven't quite adjusted to that yet. I still feel like they are just having pity on the poor little fat girl.

Well I can tell that my voice sounds happier...I start getting perturbed by the "oh my God ur so sexy now" @ my 2nd job! I am a smart intelligent women not a Ugly fat girl! Who is a swan. It just hurts once in awhile that society is so ignorant. I just like excercising more and having the stamina.

Melissa, I'm one of those who has pretty good self esteem and feel pretty respected, even before the weight loss. Only my boss treated me differently as she has a real problem with fat people. She is treating me great now and constantly telling me how "proud" she is of me that I did this surgery. To be honest, it kind of ticks me off, because I've worked here 20 years, have been promoted many times, and to now have a boss that reduces everything I've done down to how I look annoys me. But, I'm happy I'm losing weight...mainly for the health benefits I'm experiencing. I can walk normally again (I have bad arthritis in my knees, I was barely walking before surgery) and I'm off my blood pressure meds! Lori 384/328.5/170

Although I am a heavy person, I can truly say that I have always had a strong sense of self-worth and respect. Others may have wanted to treat me differently, but I simply over looked those who feel that the outside tells the story and not the inside. As an administrator in the school, I have to project confidence, try to run after students (TIRED), and know that I am just as capable as the next. Since the WLS, I have only grown as a person and I am very greatful. In fact, next year I will be a high school Assistant Principal. I am getting bold and skinny too!

I've always liked me. However, having said that, I sure like me a lot better now than I did pre-op. I'm not focusing on food anymore, so I'm focusing that attention on other things that truly matter to me, like my dreams and goals. Those haven't changed in years, but the difference is, I'm moving toward them, instead of munching on cheetohs while I watch them float by! Julie

Girls. I am so happy I clicked on one more post before signing off. I have been struggling with some feelings lately. I had my surgery on May 6th and the weight has just been falling off and I am looking better than I have looked since before having my 4 children. I feel incredible physically and can swim my way around any skinny person in the pool. And I am struggling with letting myself feel PROUD of myself. I am used to supporting others and being so very proud of their accomplishments, but its a new and different thing to allow yourself to be proud of yourself. I dont want to let myself get ****y or full of myself. But I am proud that I have been able to make the life changes needed to make this work. I have never felt such committment to exercise and eating the right thing. I have a strength that I never knew existed in me. I was married 19 years to a man who continuously reminded me I was not only fat but lazy. Now, I wonder who is the one at 6:00 busting with energy, laundry done, ready to leave for the pool at 8:00 and then go back at 8:00 at night. I still feel like I have something to prove that I was never that fat Lazy person they assumed I was. Is it okay to be proud of the accomplishments and goals I am meeting??? Love and Hugs Laura

Of course it's okay for you to be proud of yourself. You've done a phenomenal job. And just for the record, I'm proud of you too! Hugs, Tracy