Need some encouragement...

Help. I need encouragement from my WLS family brothers and sisters right now. I'm so disappointed in myself. Last night I at a half of a carb works pizza (there small, but still, I feel like that should have been too much considering I'm only 7 weeks out not to mention the fact that I'm not supposed to be on solids until next week). Then this morning I ate a half of a biscuit and gravy! I have gained three pounds this week and I am beginning to think that I am truely one of those people who the surgery won't work for. Please help! Tell me that I'm not a failure! I really need some support right now!

Heather - you're too new to be a failure at the surgery!!! I gained 9 pounds in two day when I was in the hospital. And a week later I still have 3 pounds of it with me. Now about your food. Yes, you could have eatten different foods, but it in the big picture it was only two meals!!!! You know you should eat something else, you've admitted it, now just do something different today. I had nacho's last night. But it wasn't a serving. It was five chips crushed up with meat and beans and cheese on top. So for me, the five ships are worth it in order to get the protein from the rest of it. Focus on the protein!! If there isn't enough protein coming in you won't lose any weight ( I know from personal experience here). Then focus on your water. Then focus on increasing your activity. No matter what you can do this week, if it's walk a mile or out to the mail box; just focus on increasing whatever you can do!! We had our surgeries about the same time!! I know that we WILL be two HOT lookin' babes come next summer, you mark my words!!! Best of wishes Laurie 262/220/135

Thank you SO much! I really appreciated your sharing with me. I think that I'm just to the point where I'm so sick of pudding and tuna that I just need a break. I've also had a pretty difficult week. Tuesday marked the two year anniversary since my granny had died. She was my world and I miss her so much. Thanks for the encouragement! I will regroup and carry on now with my fellow May babies!

I don't think there is good or bad. You had half a small carb pizza and a biscuit(what would it have been before? ) I think small portions is the key to success now and in the future for all of us. The weight gain is water due to the high sodium content of those foods. It will be O.K. I am trying to be *normal* If my family has pizza I have half a piece etc. Take care. Jane

Hi heather I too have made a few bad choices. Matter of fact yesterday i had a some of my son's chex mix. I started to feel bad and guilty and like a loser too. But i decided I was not going to beet myself up. I took a walk last night to try to burn some of it off. I had went to the gym earlier yesterday morning as well before I made my bad choice. I say if we eat something bad instead of beating ourselves up try to do better and do some extra exercise. That way we are burning off some of the crap we stuck in our mouth. Have you talked to your doctor abou****er? Maybe you are retaining some. Maybe you need water pills or it is getting close to that time of month. I retain water and gain when the flow comes. Keep your head up. you are doing good. Just try better the rest of the day.

Heather, I think we all get frustrated at times and fall back on old habits and try things we probably shouldn't. In moderation is the key, but it is easier said then done at times. Heather what makes me think there is positive hope for you is that your thinking about what your doing. Okay, maybe you had a set back, but what have you gotten out of this? It seems you have spent alot of time recently hashing this over. The question is now what are you going to do? Don't beat yourself up over this, look at how far you have come. Stay focused on what you want, drink plenty of fluids, keep yourself busy, and don't forget to exercise. Heather did you take any before pictures and take measurements? What helps me stay focused is looking at them and then looking at me now. What do I like better? ---I wish you well in your journey! Sabrina

I remember how frustrated I was waiting for the solid stage to get here. Just remember, if it's not protein DON'T put in your mouth. If you've gotten all your protein in that day and you're allowed to have some form of carb then go for it! Look forward to your snack in the evening to unwind. Don't worry about the gain. Remember that we're women and our bodies do strange things with water. How often are you exercising? Are you drinking your water? I dont know how often you weigh yourself but try not to do it daily. Keep a positive outlook on your new change and your new you. You can do it! You're not a failure girl! Stay motivated and don't let your guard down when it comes to wheel power. Oh, do you belong to a support group besides our wonderful message board? You're gonna do fine!!!

Heather, Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again. I too have had two "binges". I knew that this was going to be my biggest challenge. Granted my binges consist of different and smaller items, but it is the behavior that will be my downfall if it continues. It will be a struggle my whole life. It's like any addiction. An alcoholic is an alcoholic forever. It just depends on whether they are a practicing or a recovering alcoholic. I refuse to beat myself up over it or call myself "bad". I need to recognize it when it happens and choose to either go with it or not and then move on. If you were due to be on solids next week, don't sweat it. If it didn't cause any problems, you're fine. The three pounds aren't because of those two foods. Cut yourself some slack, get more protein and exercise. Hang in there. J