Anyone else getting angry?

I'm 9 days post-op. As I write this, I have a small bit of mushroom soup. But my wife is cooking burgers for her and our kids. I find myself very angry right now that I cannot eat that with them. We were out for a while and as we drove home past one of those big convenience stores with all the "made to order" stuff and I realized that I won't be making stops for chili/cheese dogs anymore. I am so depressed and so angry. I want to be thin, but I don't want to give up my eating!

I know how you feel, Tim, but you're not serving yourself well to get angry. I love food -- the sight, the smell, the taste and texture. Right now, I can't taste many things. But if you can turn it around and enjoy the OTHER aspects, you can get through it. I still watch the Food Network because, like everyone else, I love to watch them make all that good looking food. I can imagine what it smells like, what it tastes like. And I know I'll get to eat like that again in the future, only I'll be satisfied with much less. The other day, as my mother and I were returning from my appt with my surgeon (at 15 days out), we stopped by my brother's house just to say hi. He asked us to stay for dinner, knowing I couldn't eat yet (still on full liquids). This man can cook! Well, not only would I not dream of depriving mom of the meal, I was happy to spend time with the family. So while they at center cut pork chops and pasta with veggies, I ate some cream of mushroom soup. My brother, bless his heart, got me a nice bowl topped the soup with a few chives (which I didn't eat). He made me feel the meal was special. OK, I was a little jealous of the pork chops and pasta, but I knew I was doing what I had to do to get to where I wanted to be. And in a few months, when I'm back on normal food, I'll get invited over again and be able to eat what they eat. And I'll be happy with a few bites of everything, that I can savor. Think about all you've gone through to get your surgery, about where you're headed. Look at the big picture. Is it really worth getting angry? I hope you come to terms with things and don't sabbotage yourself. When you get to where you're going, you'll be glad you did it right. Best thoughts, Joe

Jeez, that's the 2nd time I've called you Tim. I must have some kind of mental block going here. Is there a celebrite named Tim Mattheson? I think there is... Sorry Tom!

Tom, I understand your feelings too. While still on clear liquids my family had chinese food and sub sandwhiches! It killed me to watch them but I thought about my reward in the end. I knew that it wasn't going to be easy but until you experience it for yourself it is the worst. I found out it was a mental thing and once I was able to move to soft foods it got better. Keep your chin up...you made a really brave decision to go ahead and have this surgery and you should be proud of yourself and you accomplishmet. Take care Robin

I understand. Sometimes it just feel fair that my husband and son are sucking down cheeseburgers, nuggets and fries from McDonalds and I am eating cottage cheese. They are both thin, no matter what they eat. It is depressing. Getting mad doesn't do any good, though. While I feel anger over it, as well, I know it isn't their fault that they don't have my problems, so I shouldn't be upset with them. I tell myself that this is temporary and in a few months, or so, my diet will open up more and my stomach will tolerate more, and we'll be able to eat more of the same things. Right now it's the hardest, but hang in there! The farther out you get, the better it will be! You can't turn back time and un-do the surgery (even if you REALLY wanted to, which I don't think you really would want to do anyway), so you might as well embrace what you can tolerate for now. Good luck!!

OH! Buddy your not alone. I am 31/2 weeks out and I still get mad that I cant enjoy food like I use to. But its not as bad as in the beginning of my journey, I would cry Now I guess I'm getting use to it(a little) but I would get mad because my family could sit down and enjoy there food were I would get full on LIQUIDS> I know that this was suppose to happen but come on not fair I tell you. It'll get easier I promise. Hang in there Rosie

Thanks everybody. Let me clarify that I am angry at the cir****tances (not my family or even myself), and I know it will pass. But this has been a life-long crutch for me and its really, really hard to give it up. I AM giving it up, but its not without some hard emotional work. I think I need to go get weighed. Its been a week since the last weigh-in, and it might help my outlook to see progress.

I dont get angry or sad anymore, its only been 2.5 weeks post op. I just take joy in laying guilt trips on family members, who are making my stomach grumble every time they make a good smelling dinner. To be honest tho, that really dont make me anybetter because i guess im trying to make them more miserable than i am supposed to be, even tho it dont really bug me that much anymore. 604, 569

Ah, you play the guilt card too, eh? Me too! However, my husband is a post-op himself just 9+ months out ahead of me but still... I cannot eat what he is eating now. He showed me soemthing the other day that he made and I just gave him..."the look". I love it! Kathy

Tom, Ya cant get mad.....be strong. Of course I'm just a newbie.....had my surgery on Monday.....today is Thursday and I walked 1/2 a mile this morning and then met my buddies at our favorite Italian restaurant as a test. While they feasted on salads and soups, I ordered a water and bowl of just chicken broth. It tasted great to me and I was happy I could be in that envoirnment and not be tempted or feel bad. Now.... Hooter's might be a different story Keep the faith! Ken