Depressed Need Help!!

I need help I cant even keep a job I am only 19 I cant stand on my feet very long at all. I cant find no clothes to fit me. No jeans. I cant find a man o be with me caus ei am so fat. my feet stay swole i hate my life for real i am too fat and depressed every time i get bore di eat iw sih i would stop for real i hate this stuff can someone please jelp me on how to go about this i need a job so bad but every time i get one i have to quit cause i cant stand forever or nothing

Hi Brandy, I can totally relate to how you are feeling sweetheart I remember being exactly the same way when I was 19. I don't know how much you weigh but the best thing you could do for yourself is to try to go on a diet and lose some of your extra weight. Trust me it doesn't get any better it gets worse the older you get it gets harder. As far as not having a boyfriend I know how that feels too I was alone for years dating jerks who used me because I was insecure about my weight. I can tell you that willl change;) There are men out there who like big women my hubby LOVES big women. I know that right now at this point in your life you may not believe that but it's true I promise. If you're thinking of having the surgery think very long and hard about it because it is major surgery and it is for life!!! You have to change alot and give up alot in order to do this, but it does work. I'm 3 weeks out from having my surgery and i've lost 37lbs so far, but I would give anything to have a diet coke!!!!!! No more sodas Just take it a day at a time and do your best to make better food choices, drink water, and walk!!! You're still so young and you can turn things around yourself without having to have major surgery, but if you feel this is what you need you can email me and I will help you as much as I can. Just know you are beautiful just the way you are and men will notice;) Good luck to you sweetie and if you need to talk just shoot me an email. Kriss

Brandy, if i were in your situation, i would try to get on social security, tho you will probably need a doctor first. Once on gov assistance you will have a chance, if you meet the stipulations, to get obesity surgery. If you do this, you will have to remain paitent, because social sec moves slowly. I have met people who have done it through Social Sec and they are well into rebuilding their once shattered lives, happy and skinny. good luck too you

Hang in there! If a man doesn't want to be with you just because of your weight, he isn't worth your time. There are men out there that will love you for you, you just have to find him. I understand how you feel, really I do. My first husband cheated on me and when we divorced I never thought I would be loved again. I had gained a lot of weight. I was wrong. Matt loved(s) me for who I am, not what I weighted. The WLS was up to me. He was worried about me risking my life, but supported me because it was something that I wanted. He said he loved me no matter what, and I believed him. I still do. A couple of easy things that I learned from the nutritionist while doing work ups for surgery that caused me to lose weight: ~No soda. Giving up my Coke about killed me! The headaches and lack of energy were insane. I switched to Diet Vanilla Cherry Dr Pepper for when I had to have something. Other than that I drank mostly water, V8 juice or milk. ~Switched from white to wheat bread. Doesn't sound like a big deal, but the extra carbs and calories, not to mention sugars (I'm diabetic) made a huge difference! ~Switched from 2% to 1% milk. Same as above. The slight change in calorie intake made the difference! I lost about 10 lbs within 2 months just by changing these few things. I'm sure that I would have kept losing even if I hadn't had my surgery. Hang in there! As someone else said, find a doctor and see if you can get SSI/Medicaid. It's slow, but then you could get the WLS and be on your way to a new you!

Hi Brandy. Let me just say you are NOT alone. I've been exactly in your shoes. When the time is right, you'll meet your Mr. Right. If someone can't love you for who you are on the inside, then they aren't worth your time. You deserve someone who will love you just the way you are and some day you'll meet that person. Have you considered checking into Voc Rehab? They may be able to help you by providing training so you could find a job that would not require standing for extended periods of time. I'd also suggest looking for a theapist. Sometimes it is just nice to have someone who can listen objectively. Not only that, they will be aware of resouces in your area. Good luck!! Angel