22 Reasons You Might Be Fat Forever

I am on the eDiets.com mailing list. I haven't participated in their program for a couple of years, but, they continue sending me excellent little articles in my email. I really thought this was interesting. Even though we have had or are going to have WLS, this stuff can still trip us up! 22 Reasons You Might Be Fat Forever - advertisement -Are you frustrated with being overweight, and you don't know what to do? Usually we tell you what you need to do, but here's a twist: We're here with 22 reasons why you're failing to make progress. Don't take it as a scolding, but as inspiration to get the job done. 1. You are still looking for a quick and easy solution to weight loss. 2. You think that diet and exercise are the only essential factors involved in weight loss. 3. You have not identified the psychological reasons that drive your eating patterns. 4. You have not learned to manage or heal the psychological reasons that drive your eating patterns. 5. You have a fear of or resistance to growing up and becoming a full adult. 6. You use food as a reward or a treat after any or all stressful events. 7. You think you can lose weight without making exercise a regular part of your day, every day. 8. You think you can lose weight by doing it "your way." 9. You expect to lose weight without making significant lifestyle changes. 10. You refuse to learn to become a good receiver as well as a good giver. 11. You have never learned to be effectively and appropriately assertive. 12. You have not learned to express your anger in a healthy, honest fashion. 13. You have not learned to be self-nurturing except with food. 14. You are excessively self-critical. 15. You refuse to take responsibility for your life. 16. You resist learning to love yourself. 17. You resist learning to love your body before it is thin. 18. You have not faced your inner fears of being thin. 19. You are certain that spirituality (a connection to a force greater than you) is irrelevant to weight loss. 20. You think you can lose significant weight without the support of others. 21. You have deep emotional wounds that you refuse to explore and heal. 22. You are not prepared to have weight be an issue that you will have to face each and every day for the rest of your life. OK, now you have some incredibly important information about yourself and the things that are blocking your weight loss. You now have a choice. You can get depressed and go into avoidance or denial, or you can choose to make a renewed and informed commitment to your growth and well-being. The decision you make could change your life and your body for good! Hugs Everybody, Lori

great post, Thanks for a wake-up call.... and getting me to think... I have a Choice what am I going to do.... Thanks. Delia

Yes you do Delia! We all do, we just have to accept we have to keep working at it, forever!

Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou Lori !!! I loved that list. Gotta admit it sort of hurt a little to read it but in a good way. The way truth hurts before it heals. Just this morning I was reading my little meditation book OA for Today. May 11 th reading caught my eye. The topic was ' Willingness '. It noted we all are willing to have the weight removed but....stated " I need to be willing to give up that which attracts me ( to compulsively over eat ) in the first place: the gratification, sedation or whatever other payoff I get from practicing my compulsion." It jolted me as only TRUTH can. Made me think long and hard at what is behind it for me. The entry for the 11th ends up ; " For Today: I surrender everything that compulsive overeating means to me, trusting God ( my higher power { which can even be our support group} ) to put something incomparably in it's place. " Your list included sooooo many things that are behind the compulsion, at least for me. I will copy it and review it. Right on time, gal. Mary

Excellent, excellent post! Thank you, Lori. Wow, that list really makes you sit and ponder. I'll take some time to explore where I think I'm at for that whole list. I'd like to think I've done well with most of those things over the years. Thanks so much! Hugs to you, Kathy

Reviewing this list today that Lori posted last May was an eye-opener ! Thought I'd post/respond to it so it would show up afresh for us to discuss and be prodded forward by. Warning: It is painful to read...but truth can set us free Hoping this comes thru ok, Mary