Thanks Chris! Happy Anniversary to you too! You look great!

Hi Debra, Sometimes we need a little boost to our self esteem to realize that we deserve better. I am separated from my husband 2 1/2 year and I have never been happier. I have 2 daughters also, they are 9 and 5 years old. They have adjusted beautifully, however my 9 year old has her moments. I was married for 8 years and I was not heavy when we met and got married. I had a harmonal problem after giving birth to my first daughter and would not stop bleeding. They shot me up with steroids and some other stuff that resulted in me gaining weight. They said I would loose it, but it never happened. After I gained the first 60lbs I gave up hope and the next 40lbs I put on were easy. I was a working mom and had a husband that was never there to help physically or morally. Thank God for his parents, they helped raise my girls so I could work a full time job and keep things at home in order. I had my 2nd daughter in June of 2002 and I had lost a little weight, but gained it right back after that summer. I wasn't feeling well either and I had very bad menstruel cycles. i was always dizzy and tired. I had a very unhealthy relationship with my husband and I was either always working or home alone with my girls. The only decent quality about him, was that he was a pretty good dad on the whole. He loved them very much and was very good with taking care of them when I was at work. The flip side to that was, HE should have been the one with the second job, not ME!! He was a moderate gambler, but a very heavy drinker and pot smoker. He was verbally abusive and sometime physically abusive, and about 9 months after my surgery, I had had enough. He got pulled over New Years Eve for a DUI and that was the last straw for me. He swears I left him because of my weigh loss, and all I can say is that the only contributing factor was that I had self respect by then. I was still the same person, I just liked me a little better than I had in the past. It was the best thing I ever did, other than having my surgery...LOL!!! I am now happily engaged to my former (pre-husband) boyfriend and one true love!! We live together with my girls and we are all very happy. My ex is still up to his old antics: he is selfish, gives no child support, sees the kids only when he is available, and furthermore keeps procrastinating with signing the divorce papers. I am hell bent on suceeding on my own, and I could care less what ANYONE else thinks. Unless they walk in my shoes, they have no right to judge me. I say....CONGRATULATIONS ON THE NEW YOU! You can't help someone who can't help themself. Live for you and your kids,a nd make everyday count. Put on that sexy black dress and feel good about yourself...everyone deserves that!! It will get easier! It may get harder first, but one day you will have the happiness you deserve. I am so in love and he is also...I swear to you, there is no better feeling!!! Good Luck!! Stephanie, NJ

Yesterday was three years. My weight is stable. I see a nutrionist every month---my insurance pays for it. I keep a food and activity diary. I'm already finished with my plastic surgery. My blood work is done every six months. Its good. I've developed severe osteopenia which is partially because of the surgery and partially hereditary. I'd do the surgery again in a heartbeat. It saved my life.

April so glad you are doing well, and I hope you find someone to share with soon, I too have been struggling with about 10 lbs seems to be equalizing after plastic surgery, was down to 102 now 118 ??? not eating different but I do excersize daily,I have had TT and leg lift. I always feel so good, what a contrast, I thought I felt pretty good before wls boy was I wrong ,IMHO, People who have never been fat probably just don't realize how good it feels,Stay well Marcia

Hi just popping in to say Hi to all the may babies, are you still happy?1. did you lose all the weight you wanted . 2. have you regained any of the weight? 3.plastics yes or no. 4 what plastics. 5 What next. 6. Blood work and tests good or not so good. Anyway I'd love to hear from ya, Marcia