Jealousness??

Ok - I guess I have another thought I need to throw out at you guys. Does anyone out there have problems comparing yourself to other WLS patients? I was looking at some before and after pictures and I was getting more and more depressed by the photo. Some of these women look like they should be in my Glamour magazine and not on a WLS site. I don't see any hanging skin, cottage cheese looking thighs, kimono size drapes hanging from under their arms, etc... This ticks me off for some reason. I feel like I'm doing something wrong or that I'm not going to get to where I want to be because they're already there. I've lost 128 pounds to date and I still want to lose another 37lbs to reach my goal weight. However I'm in sz 14 jeans, my thighs and breasts look like they should be on my 81 yr old grandmother and I don't feel beautiful at all. Please don't get me wrong, I'm very happy to be 128lbs lighter and I know I'm a lot healthier now but I question that too sometimes. In regards to my last post about the iron suppliments, I'm really trying to get back on track with the rules as I've strayed quite a bit. I haven't gained anything back but I feel like I need to pull back the reigns before I do. Back to the jealousness though... I don't want to be jealous of fellow WLS patients, I know how hard we all have had to work to get where we are right now. I'm happy for each and every one of us for doing what we did but I just can't help but feel inferior or something to those patients who've lost more in less time or who look like they were never obeise to begin with. Am I alone in this or do you have issues with this too? Forgive me if this is a common topic on here, I haven't been on in quite some time. Your advice and support is greatly appreciated. Thanks! Jessica

Jessica , Remember hun that beauty is in the eye of the beholder... and yes some woman go all out after WLS with the plastic surgeries .. their self esteem grows . Mine sure did . Jeolous ... nope .. I feel honored to be with these beautiful women .. OMG look at yourself . you are gorgeous .. Beauty is inside .. not outside .. yes we all want to look great .. but being healthy is the main thing . I say ... go for it .. if they look that good .. I know that now .. I am doing things I would never have done .. the real me came out . the person I knew I was but was held back for so long being obese . Just look in the mirror sweety .. you are a living doll baby... walk with your head high .. be proud of who you are and where you have been . Who needs glamour ... really .. it is all about enjoying the new life you have . As to the rest of your weight .. UP THE PROTEIN GAL !!!! Get in more exersise .. the window for you is still open . Hugs ... Natalie

Hey Jessica, You are looking great!!! I hope you are able to move past being jealous...it really is simply wasted energy. Look where YOU were and where YOU are now. You've come a long way. I too find myself admiring others who might have done something different from me and lost a few more pounds or kept their skin more taught. I just try to learn their secrets by asking questions. With all that said there certainly isn't anything wrong with having plastic surgery if and when a person needs it and they are comfortable with it. I plan on having my girls hoisted and maybe some leg work. I was blessed to have a decent middle and worked hard on my tummy. I will not need any work there. Good Luck!!! Up tha****er and remember dense meat protein is best for keeping us full longest. Christie

LOOK AT YOU YOU ARE Soooo PRETTY. DON'T WASTE YOUR ENERGY ON NEGATIVE THINGS LIFE IS TO SHORT. ENJOY WHAT YOU HAVE AND IT LOOKS TO ME LIKE YOU HAVE A LOT ENJOY MAGGIE. B/S 278 MAINTAINING 134 LBS.

Thanks guys - as much as I know I shouldn't compare myself to others, some days you just can't help it ya know? I'm working hard to snap back into shape and get with the program. I have a feeling I'll be on here MUCH MUCH more often. Thanks again! Jessica