I have Missed you all ..

I am so sorry I have not been around . I missed you all terribly . I wanted to share with you all as you have all been with me from the begining ... I am getting a divorce . I have moved out of my house . I knew it was coming but did not think it would be this hurtful . 2 weeks ago I asked my husband for a divorce . I told him I just could not take the anger I had in me for him and that I just was not in love with him . We had been going to counseling and I really thought we could work things out .. but in a nut shell .. I am not the same roll over and take it girl . My weight loss has freed me from letting people walk over me .. abuse me .. But here is the kicker .. I lead a support group here and my husband has made contact with one of the girls there that I thought was my friend . They are now dating .. imagine that .. she met me last Tuesday to : Break the news to me and wanted to know how I felt about it . I told her point blank that I could not be her friend if she dated him as there would be too many akward situations . She looked at me .. with tears in her eyes and said that she valued our friendship more than a relationship with my husband .. well that lasted all of a good farting spell .. before they where both on the phone talking again . This was my blessing . And my gift from God . He gave me the light to see that he was no good for me and to stop feeling sorry for him . So I am moving out of my house .. he is moving out and honestly .. my life is so sweet now .. so peacefull . I had not been eating or sleeping but I am getting back to my good self . I just miss all of you and could have really used a hug last week . Thanks for always being there for me .. I had a set back that is leading me to a GREAT BIG COMEBACK ! I love you all ... Natalie

Hey Natalie, Wondered where you were. You are in my prayers!! Hang in there, sometimes this is the best way to go. I divoriced my ex about 14 years ago...and that was the best decision I ever made. I should have made it years before that...and, like you said...it was a peace I had not had for years. That will be there...but, you will still feel rotten. You will make it though!! Good Luck!! Jeannie

Hi Natalie, I have not posted for a very long time. I'm sure no one remember's me. I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry to hear about your marriage ending. I can't imagine the stress you are under and have been going thru these few months. You are a Beautiful Lady,I saw your picture's in your profile. You keep your head up. I will say a prayer for you. God will comfort you. I don't know how you are going to handle the support group if your "friend" keeps going to the meetings and is seeing your Husband at the same time.. Here's a big ((hug)). Jeanne~ 302/183/140

((((((((Natalie)))))))) Sounds like you have a good attitude towards the situation. Even though it hurts now, it sounds like you know in the long run this is what is best for you and will make you happier. I know you were having some chest pressure last week as well. Did you find out what was causing that or was it stress? I'm sure great things are in store for you and are waiting just around the corner. Maggie

Natalie- How incredibly STRONG you are to be able to make good decisions for yourself and act on them! I'm glad things are headed in the right direction and I pray that your strength and determination stay with you through it all. Please don't hesitate to post or email me if you need anything at all-a shoulder, a laugh, a hug, ANYTHING. Hugs (and a few extra for last week), Susan

HI Natalie, I'm sorry for what you are going thru, it's tough, but it will get better. That said......thank you're lucky stars! You're just splitting and he's already hitting on a "friend"? Can't this girl spell "R E B O U N D".... apparently not, but she will find out. Obviously he's hurt you want to get the divorce, and doing this trying to hurt you... To me it's just proof you made a good decision. Take Care, Be Happy, Live Well Pam

Oh my sweetie, I had no idea you were going through so much all this time!! You have been a huge stepping stone for many of us, and have been so positve through this journey we have all joined. That is horrible about your friend, or ex friend I should say and your husband. I am proud of you for putting your foot down and making your decision, even though I dont know all you have been through. I am so sorry I havent been here more to talk to and try and help through this trying time. I have been so busy with summer activities with Anthony. You look amazing hun, and you keep your head held high. You are an angel.- Melissa

Natalie I'm so sorry you are having such a difficult time. Remember to take care of yourself as you deal with this new beginning in your life. Blessings to you as you enter a new season of your life. Melissa

Dear Natalie, It is nice to hear from you. I rarely get on the boards at all anymore but I stop in once in awhile. I'm so sorry to hear about you and hubby, but I know how you're feeling!! My little girl's daddy has known me for 13 years and has always kept me at arm's length saying that he wanted to be "just friends" (even though we have a daughter!) and then, once the weight started coming off-he decided he wanted to marry me! NOT!! If he couldn't love me when I was heavy, then he can't love me now! I have had this strange attraction to him for years and no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't seem to pull myself away from him even though he is mentally and emotionally abusive and always has been. Now that I have new confidence in myself and KNOW that I deserve BETTER-I told him NO I wouldn't marry him! Boy, was he mad! He is a controller and didn't want to marry me, he wanted to OWN me! I've been single for 45 years, raised my son on my own and am pretty much raising my daughter on my own too. I know it hurts, I know there is pain but, like you said, we are no longer the "roll over and take it girls" and the men in our lives don't know how to handle that! You stay strong and be brave. I'm here for you if you ever need a shoulder or someone to vent to. I totally understand. Take care and keep smiling!!!