1 year Today!!! Please help!

Hi everyone, I went for my checkup and I'm doing good he says.I still have to go for my labs,I really hate needles and have to go someplace where they don't know me.We got new insurance and they only pay for labs in one place. Well anyway I have lost a total of 171lbs,my BMI went from 66 to 35. I also went from a size 36 to a size16/14...of course some things I can do 12 and others are 18 depends on the company.You wouldn't think sizes fluctuate so much. I just can't wait to get down into those single digits. Never been there well maybe in 2nd grade.....wow when you think about it in that way What a miracle. I should be the happiest person alive, but I'm not. I am still not at goal and even tho I am thankfull and Blessed to have lost this much I just thought I would be at my goal.....I sometimes feel I will never get there. I have upped my protein to 100-120 upped my fluids and am excercising which I still don't like.I even stopped eating the sugar free cookies and ice cream.My doc had a fit about that one.He asked me if I would give a near beer to an alcholic,I said no....so why would I let someone addicted to sweets have something like that.So I stopped, it still is going so slow. I just keep getting so bummed out I still have 54lbs to go and at this rate I feel like I'll never get there. I'm so sorry I am just feeling out of sorts today...and I shouldn't be by any means.What the heck is wrong with me?????? My hubby wants to take me to a movie and dinner and I just want to be alone.....I have never felt like this till recently. I just feel like my emotions are all over the board.One minute I'm laughing the next I'm crying for no reason. Again I'm sorry I don't really have anyone to share my feelings with here so I'm afraid you wonderful folks get the bad feelings. Please don't get me wrong I'm not sorry I did this it's the best thing I ever did for myself and my family....and I am very Blessed . I think my hormones are just messed up. Thank you for listening to me vent ....I will be better tomorrow. Thanks,Angi 360/189/135

Angi, Hang in there. We were about the same size and I also have lost 170 pounds. It is easy to get a bit depressed as we are not able to go back to our old behaviors that comforted us when we were down. How much skin do you have? My doctor seems to think that I have about 25 pounds so that is weight that I will not loose unless I have it removed. I will see 150 pounds someday but at least I will never be over 200 or 300 again. Hang in there! -Gerriann 241/180/150

Hey Angi, Don't worry, you've got a lot of company in that boat you're in. My 1-yr anniversary is today, too; I've lost 100 lb and gone from a tight size 22 to size 8-10. But, at 20-25lb away from my personal goal, I look in the mirror and see just the fat! And I'm sitting here feeling fat and glum! Maybe we're just having a kind of emotional let-down as we make this big milestone of our one-year anniversary. Don't know about you, but a year ago I never thought I'd make it this far. Now, I'm asking myself "is this all there is?" And the answer should probably be: the journey is never over, we'll always be the people we were pre-op (with all the issues that made us MO to begin with). We're just a whole lot smaller than we were before -- and a whole lot healthier in many many ways -- and a whole lot better able to deal with our issues than before. But we'll always have issues. How about a deal: I won't give up if you won't. Here's a hug and lots of happy-anniversary wishes for all of us. Donna 256/156/135

Personally, I think all the emotions are due to us being either 1 year out already or just days from it. I love how much I have lost. (130) But I have 31 pounds left to lose and wonder if it is going to happen. I know that I am hating the 1 year rebirthday because I know the weight lost will slow down even more now. It is so depressing to me. And I hate to say it, but it bothers me to see others at goal or below goal that had the surgery either this month or after. Don't get me wrong, I am happy for them but yet wonder why I haven't done as well. Here I am at 145 and wearing a size 14 when others at this weight are in single numbers. NOT FAIR!!!! Honestly though, we will get there. Cheer up! You are so much better off right now than you were a year ago and even though it has slowed down alot, you are still losing. I have heard of people losing up to two years to 2 1\2 years out. See, there is still hope for us slow ones. And from what I also hear, it is better to lose a bit slower. Gives some of the skin time to go back instead of just hanging out. We are all in this together so this is a place for you to come and talk about your feelings. We are all one big happy family. **HUGS** Toni

Angie, You are being way too hard on yourself. Look what you have accomplished as opposed to what is ahead of you. 171 pounds. You have lost 171 pounds. How can that be upsetting. A few months ago I was feeling down because I was barely losing any weight. I started this trip at 410 pounds and at that point I had probably lost about 140 pounds. I was looking good and feeling great physically, but still had over 100 pounds to lose at that point. Well this very smart lady who had lost over 200 pounds said to me, suppose for whatever reason you couldn't lose another pound. Could you live at the size you are now? Could you be happy with that? In all honesty, after having come from 410 pounds, I had to answer yes, I could live where I was. Well you know what happened, the next week, the weight started coming off again and now I've lost a total of 161 pounds. I still have 70 to 80 pounds I'd like to lose, but you know what, if I don't, it's ok too. I don't dwell on where I think I should be. I dwell on what I have accomplished so far and that is what you should do. Don't set yourself up for failure and disappointment. Look at what you've accomplished and be proud of that. It's what I do, and it works. Eat smart, eat healthy and that in itself will be your reward. Stephanie