Feelings of being Dissed...

Hi all, I don't know if any of you are going through this or not but this is my perception about my Dr's Support Group. I am almost 1 year out, have lost 87 pounds, am wearing a size 6 in pants and am 1 pound from being at my outside goal weight of 145 pounds. I have exercised religiously all of my life and therefore have little extra skin to deal with. I don't tell people unless they ask. Those are the stats. Here is the problem...I find whenever I post anything on my Dr's support group of a struggle or just good news, or just chatty stuff, I get no responses. Also, when I attend the meetings, people don't talk to me unless I make the first move. I am beginning to feel like I should just move on but I know I need to learn to live post-op just as much as everyone else. Anybody have this feeling too HELP!

SHerri ==forgive me for laughing but sometimes I feel the same way about myself.....I find that unless I stand up and shout I am not heard---When I post of the forum---either I get no answer--unrelated conversation or a very delayed response. Maybe we are just invisible---hmmm--what a concept---Well let me tell you --you have done wonderful with your weight loss---I can only hope to do so well---and I am only 5 weeks out... Best of luck and maybe someone else can give us some insight---In the meantime--shout it from the hilltops---and Post in capital letters---or ask---why isn't anyone responding---Speak your mind and be heard! Lisa

Hey sweetie, I am not sure what it is. I know when I post on my surgeon board, I dont get any replies, or help so I stopped. I post mainly here with other May babies, or on the main message board. As for support meetings, It doesnt hurt to be the first one to talk, maybe some are uncomfortable talking but want to be there for the info. You are doing great, and have come so far. I am sure it has nothing to do with you. I wish I had a support group close to me, I am so far in the booneys that we dont. I get all my support from here at OH and my family, and my Dr's. Sorry I wasnt much help- Melissa

Sorry you feel this way. I myself dont go to a support group but when I did I felt this way as well. I learned to get support in my own way. Keep close to those whom show me support and away from those whom have negative things to say. My best support in online I know. People here dont judge me. I am happy these days. I congrats you on your weightloss however. Happy you have little skin and lost the weight so sucessfully. NAT

Hey...me too. Sometimes I post and noone answers...it is like, ok...what is going on??? I have not been to my doctor's support group...so can't say anything abnout that. Maybe they are just what ever.... I have not yet found my doctor's forum...I will have to look again tonight. I try to post to everyone's post that I read...cause I know how it feels to post and not get a reply!! Jeannie

I think you answered your own problem... If a support group is important to you (I think they are) and you have to make the first move to get people to talk to you then - You have to make the first move. It's not easy sometimes. I know I usually don't have much to say unless I am asked or some topic comes up that is really important. Support is important and at some point you have to decide that you have to do what you have to do. I have a number of support groups that I frequent - they are all different. Try another one to see if they are more outgoing or a better match to your needs.

Hi Dont, even give it a second thought you have done fantastic and as for less skin that makes it even more wonderful,never be intimidated by anyone nine times out of ten there jealouse you look beautiful and elegant and earned every bit of it.!!