Low sex drive question...........

Ok now I thought for sure that losing 103lbs would make me a nympho....but in fact my sex drive has been lost along the way somewhere. I have NO sex drive at all....is anyone else experiencing this too? I am not sure what the cause or remedy is for this. Any suggestions or comments would be appreciated. My husband would love the help...lol Julie S. 265/162/130

Hi Julie, Isn't that just a kick in the pants?! I lost my husband somewhere along the way so I can't quite compare my then-and-now sex drive with yours. But I can tell you that even being -90 lb, thinner than I've been since long ago when I really was a babe, I don't really feel hot either. In fact I still kinda feel like the side of a barn. When I look in the mirror I see the fat pockets (not the empty spaces that USED to have fat pockets in them). Maybe it just takes more time for our heads to realize how gorgeous our bodies are looking. But, I do get a kick out of trying on new smaller-size clothes. And I think I look pretty good in them, too. If that's the case with you, why not try going shopping at Victoria's Secret? Maybe a little new lingerie will make you feel sexier (not to mention what it could do for your hubbie). Good Luck! Donna 243/167/134

Hey Julie hmmm not sure what to say but will say for me I lost my sex drive between 4 and 6 months out. But now it's back and I am out of control. I also have the rolls all on my sides and my hanging stomach and gosh don't talk about the breasts. Thanks God for plastic surgery I am doing it all as soon as I hit my surgeons goal at 165 and I pray that I can have it by May 2005. But with all that work I see myself feeling better now than I did 4to 6 months out. I love me now and sex is good and fun agian. I went and got some things I felt sexy in. This helped cuz I want to show it off. But I had to feel sexy in it. Not him. Once I found them I was off the chain. LOL... I went to Vickys and they have these camasoles top and bottom lace very pretty and sexy and it hides my rolls so I feel good in it. So hey my man ain't mad anymore LOL NAT

Jeez.. I think I found your sex drive.... I feel like a teenager again. Of course, as luck will have it, my wife hurt her hip so it actually IS like I am a teen again. Oh well, time heals....

Julie, I am with you, I was very excited for the nympho phase but I am just not getting anywhere near that, now my husband on the other hand is very eager to sleep with this new wife of his, but honestly I think I am a bit resentful of that at times, what a shmuck I know but the me that is important has not changed inside so the renewed attention and eagerness kinda ticks me off sometimes? I don't know I like the new me too so I can't blame him??? or can I, ha ha! I'll be waiting patiently for the passion bus to pick us both up! Lisa

Hey Julie, Did you know that not getting enough protein can decrease the labido? I know when I upped the protein, I got back into the groove. Just a thought.

WOW really???? If that is true it makes since. I was concentrating on ME until my husband came home . AFter he came home it has been all about him and then out of town guests. I have not dranik a protein shakes since he got home. I will sure give this a try to see if it helps. Thank you so much for the suggestion.... Julie

Hey Julie, I am right there with you girl. I thought it was because I had only one ovary left before my surgery and had them remove it when they did my gastric bypass.. But maybe not.. I have lost 92 pounds and thought I would be nuts by now... But no.. I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO INTEREST! NONE>>>> Not like me at all, I don't get it. I look better than I have in years and feel better and like the looks comments open doors and all the perks I seem to be getin now but NO< I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX..I have to say, I feel better since I'm not the only one.. What are we gonna do? Should we call out surgeon? Gahhhh how embarrassing...... Or maybe our Gyn..... Lordy, I dunno,,,,, Help..... I think this is gonna be horrible and embarrassing ... The only thing I can compare it to, is when I took the depo shot and did not want my husband to touch me..... Well, that ain't it,, done took out the factory, put in the playground and now the playground seems to be out of order.. LOL Help.... Melanie Don't worry Julie surely we can figure this out.......Surely..................maybe...I hope..............Or we can be skinny nuns or somethin.....LOL

Well girl I guess we better get working on this before the nun option comes into play..lol I think I am going to give 'increasing my protein' a try like someone had mentioned. It makes since to me. Well it seems like something simple that I can try to see if it works before having to deal with the embarrasement of talking to a doctor. Keep me up to date if you find anything that helps. AT 33yrs old I thought I would hit my 'prime' at some point! Julie 265/162/140

Trust me on this: 35 is the absolute peak ... so you're still in the ramping up stage!