Dressing too sexy....

Okay I was wondering if any of you are having this problem. I have now lost 70lbs and am 27 yrs old. Finally my body looks something like what I always wanted it to be. I find that I am wearing a lot of short shorts and midriff tops and showing off my belly button I worry what people are thinking.... like maybe I am trying to show off too much or trying to act/dress to sexy. I'm really doing it for me... because I feel sexy to me and to my husband and I like not having to feel ashamed of my body. I don't want people to think I am trashy though. What do you think?

I've only lost 53 pounds but I've bought a few dresses that were form fitting and I loved it! I see nothing wrong with it as long as you are not going over board! Who cares what other people think! Look at it this way- we've been big all of this time and people always have plenty to say about "fat" people so if people have something to say about you when you are smaller...oh well let them talk. It's about you and what makes you feel good.

Well, this is from a totally guys perspective but here goes... There is a huge difference between sexy and trashy. The best examples that come to mind are the pop princesses Christina Agulara and Britanny Spears. In my opinion they have flipped flopped totally in the last few year or so. Christina went from trashy and now is more sexy & classy. Brintany went from sexy to trashy. It's almost like the universe can't have them on the same fashion wavelength at the same time or something. You can be very sexy and not be trashy. Likewise you can be trashy and not very sexy. Honestly, I get most of this from reading my wife's US Weekly. They do a great job of distinguishing from sexy and trashy. You don't need to show a whole lot of skin to be sexy. But it's a lot harder to NOT be trashy when you show a lot of skin. Leaving something to the imagination helps alot in being sexy. Now from a WLS patient, I can relate to the big swing in your assessment of yourself. You should not feel ashamed of your body. And, I think it's perfectly natural to swing a little more extreme at first. As you get used to your new body you will find a comfort zone for your new look. Anyway, that's my $0.02.

Are you trashy? Of course not!! You know the truth about yourself, and you have spent years being judged by others based on your weight. If you care a lot about what other ppl think, then you should dress like a nun. You worked hard to get your body looking like this, and if it makes you feel good on the inside to wear the clothes you like, then WEAR THEM. Just don't wear them to work . My belly button is starting to look like a caved-in rotten fruit. I'm pretty sure that I would invoke utter revulsion if I exposed it. And that's just in ME. Never mind what the world would think. If yours looks good, then SHOW IT OFF GIRLFRIEND!! Hugs, Susan

Wear what makes you feel good. If you feel like you look good, you look good. If your hubby is happy with how you look, then you're probably ok.

There truly isn't enough money on the face of the earth to have me show any of this skin... I'm having a hard enough time just wearing blouses that are more form fitting... (now granted.... I started this process at a size 32/5-6X and am now only getting in 2-3X) I say... if you wanna wear it and it feels good... DO IT!! I think John's post was great and I like his "take" on it... there is a BIG difference between Trashy & Sexy... Just stay close to Sexy... and no problemo!! You have lost this weight, you deserve to be proud of it and show anything you want!! You go girl!! Hugs, Loree

I know where your coming from. I was in a size 24 and I am now in a size 16. I want to dress more sexy and I have bought a few things that I think look good on me. But I worry about me looking like a fat lady trying to fit into skinny girls clothes. I am always asking my husbands does this make me look like that??? A size 16 is a good size and I still have a long ways to go, but I can't seem to get over the big size and wondering if people are still looking at me because I am smaller now or if they still think I am big. Does anyone know if this way of thinking is normal?

Yeah I totally get what you're saying. It isn't that I care what people think necessarily but I do wonder how they perceive me now. I went from a size 24 to a 10, but do I really look like other people who I know wear 10's?