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Scheduled for a RNY on the 27th. I've waited 2 years for this and its here. Now, I dont know whether to cry or tell the whole world how I feel. I have two kids 4 & 1 and im doing this for myself and for them too. My husband and family are wonderful too. May 27th is my new Birthday. Thank you God for this.

Evelyn, No worries my friend. The worries are normal. Just pray and have others pray for you on a safe and speed recovery. Keep the Faith! I just had the surgery on May 3rd and was very nervous, however I left it in God's hands. I too have small children, 4 to be exact. All is well on the other side, you will make a great looser! God Speed Erin Emerson

A new Birth, What a great way to plan things. You'll do well and being your so young your going to have the rest of your life to enjoy those little kids. I'm 57 and wish I had been able to do this sooner I'm just seeing the surgeon for the first time on the 24th so sweety I'm very happy for you and I wish you the best and Happy Bithday!!!!!!!!!!!! Doris PTL

Evelyn, You are my birthday buddy girl !!!! I too, am having my new birthday on the 27th!!!!! Isn't it a GREAT way to look at it!!! On the 27th, our new lives will start... our new healthy, active lives ~~ Where we can be all we can be, and all we've wanted to be and do for a long time!!!! Where we won't huff and puff going up stairs and where we will actually be doing something for ourselves to make US better!!!!!! I too, am very nervous!! I understand what you are feeling and feel the exact same things. I have been in the Kaiser program for surgery since October (original consult with my Dr. was all the way back in Jan 2003) , and it has been a looooooooong hawl, full of Dr.'s appts. and tests and all that good stuff, and it felt like the "date" would never get here!! And now, all of a sudden the date is here!! I started crying when I got the date... Knowing it was the date of my new life beginning. I am scared to death... I'll admit it!! But, I know that I am doing the right thing. I too, have placed it in God's hands. I have a little plaque on my desk (and everywhere else these days too) that says "If God leads you to it, He'll see you through it!" Perhaps that will help you too. I have to remember that this is a precious gift that we have been given... a chance to start our lives over... and live healthy!!! I have had some pretty big breakdowns waiting for this surgery and anxiety over not making it through... (I had a complete breakdown at Christmas, when I was packing up all the ornaments... I kept crying thinking about who was going to be putting up my ornaments next year, since I wouldn't be here! It was a really scary panic attack, and I had to call my mom to come over to my house, to calm me down!! ) We all have fears, but I truly believe we do have to put this in God's hands. Let Go and Let God! Ask for help!! You tell whoever you want... yell it from the top of the mountains if you want... just take this next 2 weeks for YOU!!! Do the things you want to do... stay busy!! Say your prayers ... and get things ready for yourself when you get home from the hospital... spend time with your kids and your family... That's all I've been doing... working hard at my job to get things caught up so that it won't be horrible, when I come back to work... and getting my house ready for the new me to come home from the hospital!! Evelyn... It's almost your birthday... TIME TO CELEBRATE!!!!! Good luck... keep me posted and let me know how you are doing... if you need to talk, just e-mail me!! And then, we can celebrate our birthdays together... By the way, this website is the PERFECT place to spend your "confused" time... what a BEAUTIFUL place full of support and prayers and friends!! Aloha, Loree

I'm going in the 26th. My kids are 17 and 22 - old enough to verbalize what I mean to them as a mom. After all the struggle to get to this point, and now I'm scared! I'll say my prayers for all of us - God speed!

Dear Evelyn, yes, thank you God for this! You have come a long way. And you are doing this for yourself. And others will benefit from your new self. Happy Birthday, Evelyn. Please keep posting messages to this site. It helps me to hear others' experiences. I am having surgery May 17th. Regards, Rose

Evelyn, I had my surgery on May 4th. I turned it over to God and he blessed me greatly in my recovery. I am now 11 days post op and able to take care of all of my basic needs. I am still on low doses of pain meds so I am not driving yet, but doing very well overall. I was so nervous when I was at where you are now. I too research this for nearly 27 months. Follow your heart and have faith. I am so glad now that I had this done. I am already down 20 pounds and the underware is getting baggy...and every day is better yet! I will keep you in my prayers! Deb

Hi Evelyn, Good luck on the 27th, Ill be thinking about you! My new birthday is the 28th so I'm right behind you! So happy birthday girl Party on it's a new you!

congrats. i had mine on the 11th and am still getting use to it trust in the Lord and the next thing you know...your eyes will be open to a brand new you. i found it not as scarey as i had thought...they get you in and keep you busy so you don't have much time to worry. keep positive vicki