May 3rd is coming up fast............

I'm a bit apprehensive. I started this process only 6 wks ago and getting approved was really easy (maybe too easy.........) Out of all my friends and family only 1 has shown any kind of support. I think everyone feels that I'm not overweight enough, sick enough, old enough, or that I'm not doing it for the right reasons. What are the right reasons? I actually had 1 friend tell me I'm going to "be different" after the surgery. Then in the same breath she admitted that maybe she was a little jealous. What the heck kind of friends do I have anyway? I guess they don't understand. I guess the problem is is that I don't quite understand either. OK. I'm done venting, just a liitle preoccupied w/why..............

Hi Aimee, Well, for one, you are not having this surgery for your friends. You are having it for yourself. You and your Doctor feel you need it or he wouldn't do it. Once your family sees how great you are doing after the surgery they will come around. And I think your friends will too. And they are right, you will be different, you will be AWESOME . You have friends on this board who will back you up anytime you need them. That is what a support system does. Everyone here is nervous, excited, scared and praying we are doing the right thing with this surgery. Sofar there are 67 men and women who are going to have surgery in May on this board. Eight of you are having surgery on May 3rd. so you are not alone, you have more friends then you know of . Jean

Hello, My BMI is lower than yours. I have a couple of comorbidities and insurance approved me last week. As far as your friends, they may be jealous or maybe envious. but dont let it get you down. just tell them you are changing the outside. you are the same person inside. But I am sure you will be even a happier person when you start shrinking, your friends will be okay. they just dont understand what you are going through in your old body. They will LOVE the new you. My surgery date is also May 3rd. Cindy