Having trouble. I am gaining so much back.

First off I want to thank everyone how replies. I won't be able to response quickly. I lost my phone, so I use the public library. I have gained so much weight back!!! I am back up to 170. I have been depressed for awhile. Food has become my confort again. I caught myself eating when I am not hungery. So much is going on and I know that my weight gain is all my fault. I can't find a job, my husband wrote many checks knowing that there wasn't money in the account. He just started working again. We are losing our home. But we did agree on that, what bothers me is that he doesn't want to help get everything out. It is up to me and time is closing fast. My family doesn't want me to go back to him at all. Yes, he did hit me in the past, yes he did cheat on me. But he has been getting help and I do believe a person can change if they want too. So, I am willing to give him the chance. That doesn't mean I will not leave him if he messes up again, but I want to give him a chance. I mean, I did put him through so bad times myself, he was there all the time I needed him. But it is so hard to handle this stress. The stress is so bad on me that there are times that I black out and go through the whole day not knowing what I am doing or saying. I have pasted out a few times for no reason. My doctor thinks it is stress. Now I am stressed about that weight gain. I know that I have to get back on track with the program, but it is so hard. Thanks for listening. I just needed an ear and shoulder to cry on. You guys are the best here. Again thanks for you responses and I will write and answer as soon as I can. Toni R.

Hi Toni! I know what you are going through. The lowest I got down to was 172 and I hang around 177-179. Surprisingly, I look really good at this weight, but I would like to lose more. I lost my only son in a car accident last September and I am still dealing with his estate. So I know what stress is!! The best advice I can give you is to do what you can to change your eating habits so you aren't eating when you aren't hungry, but make sure you get at least 70 - 80 grams of protein per day and drink lots and lots of water. I find when I do this the weight gets back down like it should. I hope that you get more responses with better advice, but that's what has worked for me when I have gotten off track. When you are stressed it is too hard to go back to square one and start over with your diet. Once you've eaten those "forbidden foods" it's hard to forget that you could do it without getting sick. So that's what I'm going to tell you-concentrate on your protein and water and see if that helps some. I'm pulling for you Toni!! And if you feel that your husband is worth a second chance, then don't worry about what others think. When and IF the time comes for you to leave him, YOU will know when that time is-no one else. Take care!!! Laura P.S. Email me if you'd like! I'd be glad to listen when you need to vent!!

Oh Boy Toni, I am so sorry to hear you are having such a rough time right now. I know that the weight issue is getting tougher for many of us right now. They always said it would be tougher a few years out and here we are. First..I think you need to seek help for the stress. If you are having black outs and passing out and your doc doesn't have you taking anything or receiving any counseling find a new doc. You need to get that situated FIRST. I will say that I was once in a really stressful position and felt bad about asking the doc for something. Then he put me on prozac and things were so much easier. I didn't need it once I left the position I was in, but boy did it help me while I was. Next, the weight gain. I have been pretty much where I am give or take 10 for over a year. I set a ceiling for myself. That means I do not allow myself to get above a certain weight within placing myself back on what I call the basics. For me it's worked every time. I do MEAT and Veggies at meals only. For snacks I allow myself nuts, cheese, or fruit. I also UP my water. If I'm drinking 64 oz when I hit my ceiling then I up it to about 84 oz. So basically...think meat and veggies. Stay away from bread, pasta, and rice. I would say it's also best to stay away from sweets. I can't lose any weight if I'm allowing myself sweets...sugar free or otherwise. Good Luck with your marriage. I think any marriage takes lots of work. I hope that you and your hubby can work through the issues. I really think your doc should have an idea of what you are going through there as well. Christie

Hi Toni, Hey, you know what is best for you. Just don't anyone take advantage of you...or use you as a walking mat. You are someone special. Don't forget that. I am back on here, because of weight gain also. I didn't think this would happen. My doctor said it was because I was a binge eater before, and binge eaters have a really rough time...but, I am not buying that, cause that is why I had the surgery, because I couldn't do it on my own. I thought htis was supposed to help big time. It only helped little time, if you know what I mean. We need a support group where we can go and talk. Jeannie