RANT: SURGERY COMPARISONS

So a friend and co-worker of mine had surgery 1 month before almost to the day... She is full of advice and comments and it's annoying (and this is my 1st day back to work). I avoid the subject cuz I dont want to talk about surgery all the time anyhow (who does) but I definitely dont want to hear how I'm "not supposed to have that" when I say I had pureed veggies and fruit (my surgeon says it's ok, hers said not till week 3). And then she procedes to tell me how she ate an entire piece of garlic bread yesterday and then threw up and there was blood in it (and you're giving me advice?!)...

It's important that we keep in mind that different surgeons have different requirements. In my personal experience, Kaiser seems to be the most different. I've heard of a cream soup strained diet for a week after surgery, crushed up crackers, and other things that my nutritionist said were no-nos. I keep telling her, "that's Kaiser, but I'm Blue Cross." Not only that, my surgeon is very well known in my area and praised and has only had 1 death (post surgery and was caused by vitamin deficiency and blood clot) over his thousands of surgeries performed. Im confident with his abilities and with his suggestions and requirements. After all, he did my husband's RNY 2 yrs ago and he's never had an issue.

Guess I just needed to vent to someone who understands!

You are right, and maybe next time she starts preaching remind her of that, and that your doctor knows what works for his patients.  I have to keep reminding myself of that as I am on liquids for two weeks after surgery, where some who have had RNY are already on soft foods, ohh how I wish I could have, but I keep reminding myself, this is what my doctor said to do. 

Ugh, I wouldn't want to deal with that. Rant on. I can't imagine.

I would just politley tell her that you do not want to discuss the surgery and that your surgeons have different methods and you are following your surgeons rules not anyone else! Good Luck!!