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Topic: RE: Sunday Weigh In
Hi Shar and all the A-Team,
I hope that today finds you all well and doing the best you can. As for me, my house has been filled with the flu plague since last Sunday. Hubby brought it home and was only sick a couple of days, but i have been down for the count since Wednesday and still feeling poorly, but at least I can sit up and walk around today (so far).
Perspective. That is a good topic, Shar. I updated my ticker today, having lost seven pounds since the early part of February. I don't doubt a good portion of that weight loss was being sick this week, but no matter, i promised myself I would only weigh in once a month and there you have it. But I "only" have to lose 21 pounds. And I bet at least 10 is my hanging belly, the only part of my body I really hate. I can live with bat wings and saggy boobs, and my thighs aren't terribly frightful, but my pooch keeps me in size 14 pants. I'm too scared for a tummy tuck just yet, maybe next year as a 50th birthday present, who knows with the economy.
But yes, I used to think "only" 20 pounds seemed stupidly easy to do. Now I know how hard it can be for anyone to just lose 5 pounds, a couple pounds, 100 or more pounds. I ran into a woman the other day that only realized who I was by recognizing my husband. That was very bizarre.
So, what's my perspective now? That I am a GREAT SUCCESS. Yes, there I said it. I have felt so down on myself lately. Lately as in the last 8 or 9 months, but now I've decided that what I have done, what we have done, is all remarkable and even though we may not have all reached our goals, and may need surgery to do it, we are remarkable and amazing people and we deserve to be happy. We need to enjoy the moment while we work to the goal, and revel in the things we have accomplished.
So my request to all of you is keep your perspective - remember where you came from when you forget where you are. remember how hard it's been, but how rewarding and challenging too, and the new friends you have made along the way.
love you guys and have a good week!
I hope that today finds you all well and doing the best you can. As for me, my house has been filled with the flu plague since last Sunday. Hubby brought it home and was only sick a couple of days, but i have been down for the count since Wednesday and still feeling poorly, but at least I can sit up and walk around today (so far).
Perspective. That is a good topic, Shar. I updated my ticker today, having lost seven pounds since the early part of February. I don't doubt a good portion of that weight loss was being sick this week, but no matter, i promised myself I would only weigh in once a month and there you have it. But I "only" have to lose 21 pounds. And I bet at least 10 is my hanging belly, the only part of my body I really hate. I can live with bat wings and saggy boobs, and my thighs aren't terribly frightful, but my pooch keeps me in size 14 pants. I'm too scared for a tummy tuck just yet, maybe next year as a 50th birthday present, who knows with the economy.
But yes, I used to think "only" 20 pounds seemed stupidly easy to do. Now I know how hard it can be for anyone to just lose 5 pounds, a couple pounds, 100 or more pounds. I ran into a woman the other day that only realized who I was by recognizing my husband. That was very bizarre.
So, what's my perspective now? That I am a GREAT SUCCESS. Yes, there I said it. I have felt so down on myself lately. Lately as in the last 8 or 9 months, but now I've decided that what I have done, what we have done, is all remarkable and even though we may not have all reached our goals, and may need surgery to do it, we are remarkable and amazing people and we deserve to be happy. We need to enjoy the moment while we work to the goal, and revel in the things we have accomplished.
So my request to all of you is keep your perspective - remember where you came from when you forget where you are. remember how hard it's been, but how rewarding and challenging too, and the new friends you have made along the way.
love you guys and have a good week!
Inky
Topic: RE: Downwad Spiral - HELP HELP
How I wish I had the answers for you. I am also constantly hungry and at times I could eat all day long. Lately, when I want someone to eat, I have been eating roasted edamame and that fills me up. I still have some trouble with my dense proteins and do have to throw it up sometimes. The carbs slide right down. I have added a protein drink every day and even that doesn't fill me up. I also have been eating Healthy Choice soups when I get hungry. Low calorie and filling. I guess the trick is to find low calorie foods to fill up on.Last night I had a salad with slamon, out at a restaurant. I was stuffed after eating half and took the rest home. 2 hours later, I was eating it again.. very disturbing. Chewing gum seems to help me, or sugar free suckers...it seems the oral fixation has come back and I need to squash that. I wish I could be of more help to you.
Shar
Shar
Topic: Sunday Weigh In
Good morning everyone,
Well, it seems these weigh ins are getting less and less response. But, we will NOT give up on them. Even if you don't have a weight loss, which most of us are not having, just check in with us and let us know you are OK. We love to hear from everyone.
I have not lost an ounce in 8 months and struggle to stay where I'm at. I want to lose another 25 pounds, then have the other 20 cut off. If I ever heard of anyone who wanted to lose ONLY 25 pounds before, I thought they were skinny and had nothing to complain about. 25 pounds, compared to 200, seemed like nothing to me. But, not now,,,,,it seems just as insurmountable as losing 200! How our perspective changes.
DOD 345
Now 190-193
And how was your week?
Shar
Well, it seems these weigh ins are getting less and less response. But, we will NOT give up on them. Even if you don't have a weight loss, which most of us are not having, just check in with us and let us know you are OK. We love to hear from everyone.
I have not lost an ounce in 8 months and struggle to stay where I'm at. I want to lose another 25 pounds, then have the other 20 cut off. If I ever heard of anyone who wanted to lose ONLY 25 pounds before, I thought they were skinny and had nothing to complain about. 25 pounds, compared to 200, seemed like nothing to me. But, not now,,,,,it seems just as insurmountable as losing 200! How our perspective changes.
DOD 345
Now 190-193
And how was your week?
Shar
Topic: RE: Husband wants to leave
Thanks. That makes a lot of sense. i've decided to bend a little and go out with him and his friends net weekend. But other than completely changing who i am, i don't know what much good it will do.
i don't feel like i'm runing from anything by staying at home. i love staying ome with my daughter wathcing tv or palying games.
but i understand what you are saying and will make an effort.
Thanks!
i don't feel like i'm runing from anything by staying at home. i love staying ome with my daughter wathcing tv or palying games.
but i understand what you are saying and will make an effort.
Thanks!
Topic: Downwad Spiral - HELP HELP
I don't know what is wrong with me lately. I am starving all the time. I have done everything the nutitionist has told me to stay off hunger and it isn't helping one bit. I eat then wait a half hour to digest and then eat again. At my highest on my surgery date of 4/30/07 I was 345, at my lowest I was 165. In the past 3 weeks, I am up to 171.
I am freaking out over this weight gain.
Does anyone have any suggestions?????
HELP
I am freaking out over this weight gain.
Does anyone have any suggestions?????HELP
Topic: RE: Husband wants to leave
After WLS can be so tough. Our significant others can be very afraid of how much we will change and whether we will want them anymore. It is valid concern, many times we 'settled' or have partners who are attracted to bigger people in the first place.
It was pretty rocky around here for awhile. My hubby really missed my curves. When the girls deflated, he was not always kind about some of the comments he made and it made me freaked out and insecure. I really truly felt he no longer found me attactive and then where would be be? I think some of it was his way of trying to gets some digs in in case I no longer found him good enough (as if!).
Well, he has finally made the adjustment and things are much better. Well, except for when I am going thru emotional stuff and take it out on him...
The big thing we have done is to do things together. It may not always be things that he wants to do or things that only I want to do but we take turns. You cannot sustain a relationship without remaining a couple and doing things together. Maybe, you need to find something that both of you like to do. Make time to sit down and talk it out. Going out with friends all the time is just a way of avoiding what is going on. However, staying home all the time is not a solution either-what are you avoiding? You need to do something for each other. You might have to go out once in awhile. Maybe, you could plan a romantic evening at home. If you no longer have a connection, you need to work on it, it is possible to regain one.
I really hope this helps.
It was pretty rocky around here for awhile. My hubby really missed my curves. When the girls deflated, he was not always kind about some of the comments he made and it made me freaked out and insecure. I really truly felt he no longer found me attactive and then where would be be? I think some of it was his way of trying to gets some digs in in case I no longer found him good enough (as if!).
Well, he has finally made the adjustment and things are much better. Well, except for when I am going thru emotional stuff and take it out on him...
The big thing we have done is to do things together. It may not always be things that he wants to do or things that only I want to do but we take turns. You cannot sustain a relationship without remaining a couple and doing things together. Maybe, you need to find something that both of you like to do. Make time to sit down and talk it out. Going out with friends all the time is just a way of avoiding what is going on. However, staying home all the time is not a solution either-what are you avoiding? You need to do something for each other. You might have to go out once in awhile. Maybe, you could plan a romantic evening at home. If you no longer have a connection, you need to work on it, it is possible to regain one.
I really hope this helps.
Consult/Goal/Current
282/165/183lbs
282/165/183lbs
Topic: Husband wants to leave
My husband came to me the other day and told me that he wasn't happy and he didn't think that i was happy either. Things have been strained lately but i had no idea he was thinking of leaving. He and I are very different. he likes to go out with his friends and i would rather hang out at the house. i'm not a very affectionate person and he is always touchy feely. i want things to work out and for him to stay but now everything seems like it is an appeasement. (sp?) He asked if i wanted to get his mom to watch our daughter tomorrow night so we could go out. i asked to do what and he said to hang out with friends. well, for one thing, they're not my friends. they're his. and i don't like going to bars and i especially don't like havign to be the designated driver. when we were dating and first got married he drank alot and i always ended up being the driver. i had to put up with his drunken nonsense then and i now he's better and doesn't drink that often but i don't want that to start again. he goes out with his friends. always with someone to drive him around and i stay home with our daughter. what i thought was the perfect situation. apparently, not to him.
when i told him i didn't really care anything about going out to a bar, he kinda acted like he was mad and then told me goodbye on the phone without saying i love you. he never does that. so it almost feels like he's just as upset about losing his live in designated driver as anything else.
i'm confused. i don't know what to do. i can't spend the rest of my life trying to make him happy while doing things that i don't enjoy. maybe it isn't meant to be. but for a lot of reasons i don't want it to end.
Thanks for listening.
Confused and Unhappy
Topic: RE: Sunday Weigh In
Thanks Jodi. I will try to get new pics up by our 2 year anniversary. I hope things change & you get to come to Ar. Where are you going to have your 2 year check up and when? I am adding a protein drink everyday to try and boost my weight loss. You look good also Jodi....It is hard to believe it has been almost 2 years since we walked the paint off the halls at Baptist! We've come a long way Baby! 
Topic: RE: Sunday Weigh In
hello A team!!
I gained a pound this week 222 so last week was 221. My tooth still hurts but is dealing with it. I will go back to working out this week l also told my husband I am buying the firm wave. I want it it looks fun and I think it will help. The other times I bought the firmI was too heavy now I think I will be able too.
dee
I gained a pound this week 222 so last week was 221. My tooth still hurts but is dealing with it. I will go back to working out this week l also told my husband I am buying the firm wave. I want it it looks fun and I think it will help. The other times I bought the firmI was too heavy now I think I will be able too.
dee
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