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Topic: RE: Sunday Weigh In
Hi Jess,
Wow!!! You have solved the problem! Why didn't we all think of it ourselves? If we all would live in Europe, we'd all be under 100! Come on guys..let's get group tickets to Europe.!
Shar
Topic: RE: What's this sex thing you speak of?
I, also don't want to take any hormones. I sure hope this passes. To be thinner and single, and have men after you, without the "desire" really sucks!!!!!!
Shar
Topic: RE: Serious body dysmorphia, does it ever end?
Jessica it's sooooo good to "see" you again!
I don't know why we do that. When I am out and about I am constantly asking my husband - was I that big? Am i bigger than her? What about her over there? Sheesh, I feel like a dork but I can't help myself. Sometimes it is like I am a lumbering giant out among other humans - and other times, I feel small.
I don't know that it goes away, and I am really glad you plan to get help, we have a long road to travel still - getting the weight off seems to only be the beginning.
hugs and get home safely,
Inky
Topic: RE: Serious body dysmorphia, does it ever end?
Jess,
I have missed you so much. I am so glad to see you again. I know how you feel about the image. Sometimes I feel "normal." But then reality hits and I know I am still big. I am wearing size 16 and compared to a 34W, where I was a year ago, that is small. It's strange. At times I feel thin and normal, the next moment it's "no one loves me becasue I'm fat." I think we need time for our minds to catch up.
How was the move? And the trip?
Shar
Topic: What's this sex thing you speak of?
I thought I'd hijack the sex drive (or lack thereof) post and make a new one, since it's obviously a subject a few of us are being hit with. I've lost mine before (during a major depressive episode) and eventually it came back. It came back great last summer and now since January, poof, gone again. I talked to my PCP but I don't want to take any hormones so hubby and I agreed to try to ride this out. Thank goodness he is a patient man!
But I am really concerned it won't come back this time - I am now 48 and no sign of menopause.
Help!! Are the hormones really working for you?
Inky
Topic: RE: Why does life throw us curve balls?
Hi Crystal,
I think what is is now is that we face things with a stronger sense of ourselves and that we now refuse to settle for anything. It's like we finally can see that we deserve the best we can have (and i don't mean material goods) and we're better equipped to fight for it.
Continue being strong, girl!
Inky
Topic: RE: Sunday Weigh In
YAY SHAR!!!! Way to go!!! I am losing again too now that I have moved away from my family (sad, but true. drama queens that they are). I was 88.5kg on Sunday. I am in Japan and that's what it says 
Never thought I'd be under 100!!! 
Never thought I'd be under 100!!! Topic: Serious body dysmorphia, does it ever end?
I have seen some really honest and open posts on here from people, so I thought I would chime in. (Maybe feeling a little philosophical since I have been traveling out of country for 10+days in a land where I don't speak the language, but anyway....). I am HUGE. No, that's wrong. I am smaller than the average American woman (she is size 14, I am size 12). So why do I feel HUGE? Why do I swear that I am the most obese person in EVERY room that I enter? Why do I think that "I must weigh 100lbs more than her....." Why do I think that men are not attracted to me because of my weight? This is so messed up. I am going to seek help from a professional, but just thought I'd "check-in" with the A-team. Just make it go away
Topic: RE: For Inky.. or whoever else has any advice.. BMR and such...
I'll tell you what... I don't think that BMR calculators apply to us anymore (and may not for several years until our bodies stabilize). My BMR to maintain according to those websites was ~2300 (I am 5'8ish, close to 5'9). I was eating between 1500-1800/day and maintaining, then GAINING (I went up 5 lbs). I had my BMR measured and it was actually around 1180. When you lose weight as quickly as we have it lowers your metabolism. We are not regular people. Even if you workout your metabolism is bound to decrease (I workout 4x per week, intensely). I went back to low fat, protein first, low carb, avoiding sugar and I have finally started losing again (8 pounds in about 4 weeks). Good luck.
Topic: Got a fill but lost restriction
I'm 13 months post-op and have lost about 70lbs.
Last week (Monday, May 19) I had a fill. I went about the normal post-fill diet of liquids for 2 days, then mushy stuff for 2 more days. I could sort of tell when I was doing the liquids that I didn't have much sensation of a restriction. By the time I got back to solids, I knew that I didn't have any restriction. I don't mean NEW/ADDITIONAL restriction...I didn't have ANY restriction whatsoever. None.
I've called my doctor and I'm going back in, but I curious that something is terribly wrong. Has this happened to anyone else?
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