Kinda sad no one comes here anymore

I try and come here everyday and see if anyone has posted anything new. Lately has been dead around here.. Ok A team a few of us our not done yet!!! We need you your input.. your inspirations. I know a few people think because I am a LAP band U cannot relate to me but that is not the case guys. You have helped me keep going.. was about the numbers going down on scale and the new mental out look of getting thinner. Platues Weight gain Weekly weight ins. Common thread IS we all had surgery in April 07. I maybe the last one to post here and maybe reading my own logs (how pathectic ) but, Please everyone who still comes here show us where u are at. The Good bad and ugly of Post weight loss surgery. We need everyone.. and I hope someone will be here when I REACH GOAL .. I maybe the last one to reach goal but I hope I WILL NOT BE LEAST. So what is it like being at goal was it all you thought it would be? Lisa

Lisa you are not alone - I am 43 pounds from my surgeon's goal and it feels like it's a thousand miles away. I try to wake up every day and willfully decide to have a good attitude. It's freakin hard!

First of all, OMG Susan you look incredibly gorgeous! And so much younger! My goodness, the transformation is amazing. Here's my update-I haven't lost anything since January. I'm in a size 8-10 pant and 14-16 top, and I'm pretty happy with how I look. My boobs and stomach are still huge and I definitely need plastics-not even close to being ready for it, though. My double chin is a bit loose and wobbly, and my arms look pretty bad. I've been reading a lot lately about new research showing more post-RNY malnutrition than previously thought, and have really stepped up my vitamin and protein regimen. I also am starting the day lately with a protein drink, because it really holds me over and I'm finding it hard to get in the 80gms of protein otherwise. I NEED to exercise but still haven't started. I'm embarrassed about it but I want to be honest. I still get sick now and then-last night I had 2 chicken wings and a grilled artichoke for dinner, and ended up barfing so hard I broke blood vessels all around my eyes. Sometimes I forget I even had the surgery, then something like that reminds me that I HAVE to chew everything to a pulp. Sometimes I find myself trying to get around the surgery and eat more, by eating things that I know I can eat a lot of, like cheese and crackers or cereal, especially when I'm hormonal. I do dump on sugar but only if it's on an empty stomach. Since my surgery I started drinking alcohol and coffee a lot more than I used to, because since I can't eat much, liquids became WAY more meaningful. Also, since I can't pig out on a whole pizza to numb my feelings, a nice glass of liquid love feels pretty good. I'm still working on alternative coping strategies-I figure it'll be a lifetime struggle. I finally admitted that the alcohol was doing me no favors, and making me eat more, and the calories in the cream I put in my coffee were adding up to 100s a day, so I had to stop the madness. Now I keep it to just 1 drink when I go out, and I'm going out much less now. I drink tea all day, and sometimes allow myself one coffee, but no more than that. I have to say though, life is SO good now. I am so much more active than before-it's no problem to take care of my house and yard, or go out dancing, or go for a hike with the dog-I love being back in the world. I love being a normal size and not worrying that people are staring at me, or that I won't fit into a booth or chair. I wear makeup and do my hair now-I have loved getting back in touch with my femininity and having fun with it. I feel like a much more positive, energetic person now, more like my "true self".

Susan I know how this is I have not move much on weight loss for months since like Feb and finally after 4 mos I am dropping weight. I had gotten up to 214 in fact and I really thought this was it. My band had failed me .. My body does not want to be thin I was very good what I ate then I went to dietician and had her tweek my meal plan. Not much was off but she said my body just simply got use to so little food and my metabolism adjusted depsite exercise. I started to eight small meals a day we r talking no more 150 a time meals increase the protein to 100 grams we are doing this slowly. the scale is moving I did not change how much i was eating i was merley eating smaller meal more frequently this am I am 200.8 Hang in there ok? Lisa

opps posted a reply to u in wrong place look down Lisa

I know I haven't posted because it seems like when I do I have nothing nice or constructive to say. Today will be no different I am stalled at 238-240 I need to lose 20 pounds by November 11 so after my tummy tuck I could be at my personal goal of 195. I wear 22 shorts and 2x shirts or xl rock shirts. I look in the mirror I feel better where I have curves I am an hourglass figure but I have so much hanging skin on my belly (20-25 pound Dr said) and my thighs have so much I now have a flabby ass on my front side to match my back lol. I stopped protein drinks last week because I figured I was getting enough with meat but I feel so much more sluggish so I just ordered more yesterday and I am going to go back to 2 protein drinks a day with dense protein as well. I don't know about anyone else but my body gets pissed at me if my protein is not chicken beef or pork it hate turkey I will be really sick on that. But if I have an egg I will still be hungry and If I have a protein drink I will also hell even peanut butter just keeps me hungry pretty weird huh? I was having a drinking problem where I was going through 2 bottles of vodka and 12 6oz cans of pineapple juice a month and If I had a Brown bag party I would drink a whole bottle that night and then not remember half the night. I have pictures of my last party at my best friends house I spilled vodka on me I look stupid and I was that drunk girl. So I have decided I am done with drinking not even socially because like food before I have no off switch and like the numb feeling I get. There is way more stuff going on as well but I am sure when you posted you weren't expecting long winded worries me. I do feel better health wise. I just have a long way to go I do check here everyday but usually not post I will try to do that more. Dee

Lisa, I agree.....and I am guilty, also. I guess we get busy with our lives and don't take the time to write. However, I do check in frequently, actually many times a day. I get lazy to write, but I will be more conscientious. We are certainly not desserting you, so it's nothing personal. just look at the Sunday weigh in...............so few people check in any more. I find that sad. Most of us are stabilizing,and that's OK, Many of us want to lose more,,and that's hard, but we can never give up. We need each other.....more than ever. We cna't lose the momentum of the support we have here. So, I for one, promise to be more diligent about posting and answering. Shar

Hello ...I am here I just never respond.. I also am not at goal. I am wearing 12's - 14's. still about 30 lbs from where I want to be. I am back and will stay here ..I need the support!

Sorry everyone I would love to respond to each and everyone one of you but I am dealing with very sick inlaws and having to help with end of life care with 1 of them and the headache drama traveling and family issues that go along and emergency medical needs of the other inlaw. Very sad situation. Having all said that I am sooooooooooo tired stressed and comming here helps me keep focused with my weight loss issues. The old me would have had 2 liter soda and chips and probally a cake for good measure by now.. So good to know we have a few die hards that need to lose last 3o to 40 lbs . we all need to keep strong and write even if u don't think anyone wants to hear it beleive it or not we all seem to think or feel about something simular.Comming here hold me accountable because seeing my doc evrry few weeks is not enough.. I love how many of you r honest about your short comming.. It shows we have a food addiction was not like we woke up and said u know I want to be morbid obese. was a true process and so many reason why we ate our selves to qualify for weight loss surgery. If just doing weigh****ches was the cure all we all would not be here but losing weight has many variables and very complex and unique Gonna try to respond to everyone when I return home tommorrow Lisa

Guilty this week of being a no-show. My job has me running in circles around the keyboard (i am a transcriptionist) and with physical therapy and an mri this week, there just was no time to surf anywhere. But i agree, I still need us on the A-Team more than ever. I am 43 pounds from goal and I know it's going to take at least another year. I value those that have reached goal and are maintaining or even struggling. Every bit of info is crucial to success so please, post when you can, even if it's just on the weigh-in and nothing has changed Inky