What kinda person are u?

YAY!! i love your new avatar!!! you look fabulous!!! Inky

Inky Figured people were getting tired of my old ugly mug LOL Lisa

Ok, here is goes... I just turned 38 and have two small boys, 6 and 2. I've been married to a wonderful man for almost 9 years now. I am a Gemini, which probably explains my totally different personalities from work to home. At work, I am totally outgoing and will crack the whip to get any project completed. At home however, I am totally lazy. While I keep the bills up to date, and the house staightened up, I depend mostly on my husband to do serious things like the bathrooms, laundry, etc. I am baffled as to why I am this way. I guess because I have spent most of my energy at work, I have none left for everyone else at home...ugh! I have always been a tall girl ( six foot even ) and before I got married, I stayed relatively thin. But then the hubby came along, and I stopped clubbing and dancing/excersing. You know how it goes...I got comfortable. Anyway, here are my stats: The good: I will do anything for anyone or anything (animals) in need. If I didn't have so much on my plate right now, I would probably spend 150% of my time in senior centers, pediatric centers and/or animal shelters. I get wayyyy to emotionally connected to the wrongs in the world. I want everyone to be happy and healthy. The bad: I can't say no and overextend myself. I am going to school to get my BS in business managment, I am trying to get promoted in my job, I'm trying to lose this stupid weight, and I'm trying to spend some quality time with my family. CALGON TAKE ME AWAY!!!! Oh, and I feel guilty for taking vacations and/or calling into work.- Gee, there's news eh? The ugly: I too can be judgemental and quick to make assumptions. I feel like I don't show my husband how much I appreciate him. I can be really evil to him also. I think this is a great topic. I have to go buy some flowers or something now, cuz I feel really awful... I can't wait to read everyone else's posts! Dawn

Noooooooo don't feel awful I think we all have to see the good bad an ugly side to really see where we come from .. I think when we lose weight we r gonna go threw a huge transformation Most of the posting I have read are afraid they will change the old ugly for new ugly etc ,, I think when the psychologist was having us do this he wanted us to look at ourselves with honesty and saying it out loud was actually owning the feelings thoughts we all have the good bad and the ugly in us.. I think for me I had to be honest why I was this fat.. and my lesson I got from doing this is to love my self again and that is so hard for me to do .. we have to change some feelings as we shed away the pounds We do not get 100 pounds over weight for no reason Many of us got here from pain of the past . Very few got here because the love of the food.. Runs much deeper .. I choose food not alcohol to cover my pain.. We all r healing ourselves really what it is about and it is about the addiction that got us here.. Lisa

Hello all, I post on the ray board when I have time (which isn't much) but I enjoy reading this board more. Since I don't post here often, I hope it's still ok to introduce myself a bit. My name is Shakeira, yes it's my real name. ( I had it first!!LOL ) My parents where hippies and raised me with little to no boundaries whatsoever. I didn't know pot was illegal until I was 13. My dad always had a family crop growing somewhere. You gotta love the Pacific Northwest climate! LOL All my friends thought I had the 'coolest' parents. I've been overweight since the age of 10. I am 30 years old and have 3 children ages 8,6,and 4. I've been married for 9 years and I'm one of the fortunate ones to have found my best friend and married him. I homeschool because I have a gifted and special needs child and our small town school district won't meet their needs. My oldest is autistic and my middle child is strong willed and very gifted. My youngest is quiet, sweet and very easy going. They all get along really well, (so far) and for that I'm thankful. My husband works as a CBP officer for the Department of Homeland security. I live in the middle of nowhere.. between Washington State and Canada. The good: I really like people of all races, creeds, and religions. I love meeting new people and I enjoy intelligent conversations and I respect others views even if they don't agree with my own. I am a very dedicated Christian and love Jesus and want to love others the same way He loves me. Not a easy thing.. but it's my goal. With me.. I'm so honest I tend to make people uncomfortable. What you see is what you get with me. I don't hide behind masks and don't care for people that do. The bad: I'm undisciplined and terribly unscheduled. I have a hard time doing anything within a time limit or being on time. But I'm working on it. It's a bad habit that started early on in my life. I'm flighty and overboard spontaneous most of the time. I tend to raise my kids the way I was.. with not structure at all.. and that bothers me and I want to change. The Ugly: I've abused my body for so many years I can't even remembered when it started. Easting disorders, and the like. I started hating my body as a pre-teen after abuse I suffered from a family friend. I woke up one day when I was sharing with a lady in my church about my depression and hatred for myself and my obesity. She said. "Shakeira, people commit suicide in many different ways... you might be killing yourself with food or the lack of healthy food." That shocked me and woke me up. I am so thankful for RAY and for the support I've found here and from my husband and close friends. I'm down nearly 70 lbs and as small as I was on my wedding day 9 years ago. I'm a bit afraid of getting smaller then 240 because I don't remember being smaller then a size twenty as a adult. It will be uncharted territory for me. It's weird that I'm nervous about being a healthy weight. Ah well.. that's the journey we are all on!! Thanks for reading! You guys are all so interesting... I hope I didn't bore you. -Shakeira

WEIRD! I typed RNY and it came outu RAY.. there.. now everyone KNOWS I use spell check on my posts!!! *BLUSH* LOL -shakeira

Lisa, I love the new picture. This is a great exercise. Most of us don't think of ourselves in these terms frequently. One of the hardest questions for me is "who are you?". I know who I am, but it is hard to put into words. I am 35 years old, single (recently divorced), no children. I have owned my own company for 6 years. I am fairly shy around new people in a social setting. I seem to have no problem meeting people for business. I have never lacked self confidence in my professional life. However, my personal life is a different story. The good: I am ambitious and successful. I am optimistic and always try to see the positive in every situation. It is not always easy, but I try. I am a loyal friend. My friends and family can depend on me for anything. I am the go to person to get something done. The bad: I am a perfectionist. I have very high expectations of myself and others. I am hardest on myself. The ugly: I tend to be inflexible. Once I have formed an opinion or have made a decision about something, I don't like to change it. I hate indecisiveness. I also have no tolerance for ignorance. I am impatient. It is interesting to see everyone's responses. We are all so different, but are suffering some of the same struggles. Because I am so shy, I do not post often to this board. I read it often. You guys are a wonderful support system. Thanks to all of you who post frequently.

I have been sitting here thinking about how to start this. I am a 26 year old mother of a four year old and wife for almost a year. I have had a weight problem all of my life. I think it had a lot to do with growing up poor...believe it or not. My mom tells me now that we used to eat fried potatoes and eggs for dinner because we couldn't afford anything. And then I got the "there are children in Africa with no food" thing. As I was growing up I played sports. Basketball, volleyball, colorguard, swimming. I went to college when I was 16 and worked crazy hours helping my mom who was a single parent at the time with 4 kids. At the age of 17 I met my first boyfriend and just knew I was in love. Despite my family disowning me and being on depression medication, I married him when I was 20. I bought my house. A year later I found out that I was pregnant with my daughter which was a blessing because I had been told three months before that that I was unable to have children. My marriage was miserable. He couldn't get a good job, and we fought all the time. When my daughter was 5 months old I told him to get out. The day I told him I wanted a divorce he ran over me with a car. I ended up having to have surgery to have one of my ovaries removed. I continued to work hard in school, and trying to support my daughter. Then I didn't have a choice. I had to ask him to come back because I couldn't do it on my own. I was in terrible pain from the surgery and needed help with my daughter. He came back and everything was ok for about 9 months. Then I couldn't take it any more. I told him that this was it and I wanted out. Then I met my wonderful husband now. Finished school, and got married last September. My husband treats my daughter like she is his own, and I have a wonderful life now. I have finally had my surgery (you all know that story) and I have a wonderful husband, and a wonderful job. That is me. Good: I am a very hard working and determined person. I am very honest and easy going. Bad: I am brutally honest. That is me......