What kinda person are u?

Thought it would be a intresting question to ask everyone what kinda personaity are u, U know shy ,outgoing, wild , a hermit flower child etc, SO Please share Had this shared in my support group meeting and it really intresting to see how are personaity effects are weight loss and ideas, We were asked to share the good bad and ugly of ourselves So with that said let me introduce me LOL I am a busy Mom that is a extrmeme perfectionist except when it comes to weight loss I fail at this big time tell this week LOL gotta love 3 lbs loss this week tho.... The good : I am easy going and very excepting of others short commings and faults just not mine I use humor to destress my self and I can be shy at first when u first meet me.So remember that when u meet me in chicago LOL I'll be one in the corner with a roll of dollars .. I am just not shy on the computer LOL I am a very sweet caring person to others The Bad :I have severe dyslexia and no patience for rude people and people who judge others to quickly. The ugly: I really hate my self and learning to love my self again is a hard process I carry alot of shame and pain of my past with me .. I feel I am not worthy to be loved because I am so fat, but yet I can excepting of other fat people .. weird I have a double standard, I have a very self distructive nature about myself and wish I could push a button and it would stop . I have hard time saying and believing I deserve being thin and being healthy. So for me it is more than taking in less calories = weight loss more about loving my self enought to continue this journey and not give up on my self. I hope when I reach my goal I will not snub nose others because that have yet made their journey of weight loss and be quick to say u should have surgery etc I hope to never be a hypocrit and remember that being over weight by 100lb is matter of eating a excess of 96 calores a day for 10 years = 100 pounds gained I hope I can inspire others like all My A team has me Thanks everyone for caring Lisa Can't wait to read about who u r

Ok Lisa this sounds interesting so here goes. I am a busy mommy with 6 children. I have extremely high expectations for my children. Sometimes I know that I am expecting too much, but I can't help it. I believe that the more you expect from them the more they will achieve. Too bad I didn't set the same standards for myself. I am pretty easy going as well and I try to get along with everyone. I have often been told that I am funny and should go and do stand up. My answer to that is that I am too lazy to stand up so I will just sit down. LOL I am also quite shy when I first meet other people although I do try to hide that fact. The good: I am very giving and caring. I accept that everyone is different and that those differences are what makes each of us special. I tend to give till it hurts. I enjoy working with people. The bad: I tend to start things and not complete them, school for example. I think I do this for fear of failure. I can not fail if I do not fini****end to be short with the kids when they are not following instructions. The ugly: I am a codependent person. I tend to do things just to gain the acceptance of others. I hated being that fat person. I always felt not good enough, and really hated hearing that I had a pretty face. For me this has and continues to be a journey about being an active part of my children's lives. In just 4 short months we have done more and been more motivated than we have been in years. Used to be that being together meant getting ice cream. Togetherness will never mean that again. Now when we want to be together we move. We walk and talk and really enjoy each other. Thank You Lisa for making me take a look and remember all that we have accomplished. I am so proud to say that I am a part of this group of strong people who have made this journey. I was told yesterday that my decision to have this surgery was brave. We are the bravest group for we all have begun to face our demons. I wish you all continued health and success. ((((((HUGS)))))))

Thanks for reminding me on u have such a pretty face like being beheaded and they only see your head ....oh man I hate it when some one tells me u have such a pretty face,,, I usually laugh it off with but my ankles r the show stoppers here... but deep down I feel the pain and ashamed because my body is not so pretty.. just kinda wish they would say nothing .. Lisa

HMMM I read this late last night and I was not sure how to reply so here goes. I am a mom of 2 and a college student. I am very out going and I am a go getter. I never have let people put me down. But my size for the last 7 years has made more problems than ever. It seems that a heavy person can't do anything a thin person can...lol....I hate social views on "FAT" people. The good: I will help anyone... I see someone having a bad day I will say something to them in hope that I can help them. I have never turned my back on anyone that needs me. The bad: I do have a tendency to fight for justice...See someone get treated wrong and I stand up for what is right no matter where I am or who is around. Like one day I was in a store and they had the lanes you can check yourself out and I was checking out and in the next lane there was a guy who was deaf and was trying to tell the manager at the store that something was wrong with something he was about to scann..the manage made a mad sound and was trying to walk away.. probably because the sounds that the guy was making were loud and not really normal sounds. So I stopped scanning my stuff and walked over to him and told him I would help. I told the manager what he was saying and then after I said that I told her that she should be ashamed of her self for treating him differently. and I was not too quiet about it..... The ugly: Well many people would say I am focused when I start something I don't stop till it is done.

Being a parent of autistic teenagers I have no tolerence for people who just stare or do not help them at all and ignore them or treat them like they do not matter MY kids have taught me more than I could teach them in life time they just see the world in a different way.. My son and daughter could do calculus but writng/reading was very hard for them .. I assured them they were not retarted and when people mad fun of them I told them make them do a math problem out of your book and see who was was calling them retarted ? I told my kids u could be anything u want and one plans to be a veternarian and the other is getting ready to graduated from college with degree in bussiness adminstration and the other will graduated from Hs 6 mos early with so far 3.5 gpa in college prep classes Lisa

This is a really good subject. For so long everything has been about not feeling good enough because of my weight. Not a good enough wife, mother, grandmother or employee. The good: I am a good listener and I will do everything I can not to hurt your feelings. The bad: I tend to be a little lazy. If I would do half of the things that I think about...everyone in my life would have it a little better. The ugly: I am pretty much a loner. I don't know if this has happened because of trying to hide myself away from the world or what. But, I sometimes just hate being bothered when I want some alone time. Joni

Interesting topic Lisa. It is good to see where people are coming from. I am single, no kids, no boyfriend. Turning 30 in a few months. I work in biotech marketing and go to school in the evenings to get my MBA at Northwestern. I will finish in March and hopefully start a new job shortly after. Not sure if I will stay in Chicago or move out of state or even out of country. My brother and his wife very generously are letting me live with them while I am in school. They have a 2 y/o daughter and another child on the way. We also have 2 cats and a puppy on the way. I come from a very tight knit family, all in Chicago. 2 brothers, 1 older, 1 younger, both married. One with 3 boys, the other with the girl +1 on the way. My parents live nearby too. I have been strongly supported and told that I am smart and beautiful all of my life (I am very fortunate), therefore I have always believed that I can do anything despite what I weighed (which was always high). I am very ambitious in my career and put that before my health which is how my weight really ballooned and I ended up deciding I needed RNY. The good: I am extremely generous in every aspect of my life. I am also honest to a fault. The bad: I am totally obsessive and can have a short fuse (my worst fault) The ugly: I am more judgemental than I would like to be and much too competitive. I often don't enjoy things because inside of myself I am competing with others. Thanks everyone for your continued support!

Hi Lisa, this is a cool topic-it's great to learn more about you guys this way! Let's see, how would I describe myself...I am 39, and have lived with my boyfriend for 6 years. We have a cute little house, 4 cats, and 1 dog. My brother lives in our basement, which means we get to have our 3-year old nephew visit on weekends. I love having that little guy around! I work as a grants coordinator at a university/hospital, but I just got a new job as a grants project manager at another hospital, which will start the day after Labor Day. I can't believe I got the job-I'm still in shock! I definitely think that my weight loss was an advantage-I wasn't self-conscious during my job interview, and I the directors who interviewed me later commented on how "dynamic" I was. I think that if I had tried for the job pre-surgery, they might have had a different impression of me, since I had difficulty walking, breathing or even finding a comfortable position. I lived in Brazil for 9 years teaching English and working as a translator. I read, paint, draw, cook, swim, hike, travel, and play the piano in my spare time. I am very sensitive and emotional but have a practical streak. The good: I am kind, helpful, funny, smart, empathetic, accepting, easygoing, and make friends easily. The bad: I am forgetful, a procrastinator and a little lazy. I'm always trying to boss my boyfriend around and I like to be in control. I have a sharp tongue which I sometimes use just to be funny, which I always end up regretting. The ugly: I avoid conflict and unpleasantness by retreating and hoping things go away on their own. I hate commitment and I'm insecure. I worry too much about what others think of me and need constant reassurance. And, I have a competitive side and am constantly comparing myself to others. It's weird to put all this down in writing-I think I must look like a maniac, with all these contradictions!

This is a great post - what fun to read about you all! Let's see, I'm a 47 year old married (second marriage) to a 34 year old guy named Kris. We've been together since 2001, married Halloween 2003. Neither of us have any kids and we're definitely not having any together. We have one cat, his name is Boo, he's seven, all white, weighs 20 pounds and also has an eating disorder (if he can see the bottom of his food bowl then it's empty, no matter how much food is along the sides). I work as a transcriptionist for a "major metropolitan county," transcribing probation reports. There's a lot of job security in the criminal justice system, unfortunately. I am lucky to work at home and love it. I'm really disciplined about work, and because this is production work, it's 8 hours and I shut my home office door and there's no thoughts of wor****il the next day. My previous life consisted of a 19 year career in banking and it burned me out royally. I finally left that career, burned all my pantyhose and biz suits and never looked back. The good: I'm very talented when it comes to any type of craft(sewing, knitting, crochet, embroidery, lace, tatting, jewelry making, beadwork, etc.). I am funny, quick witted and sharp tongued. I enjoy the company of others in limited amounts, and love to be alone too. I am fair, diplomatic, conservative (I'm only look liberal), and loyal. I prefer to have one or two good friends, as opposed to a bunch of acquaintances. I don't include regret or jealousy in my personal makeup and I think that has helped me get through life pretty well. The bad: I am a procrastinator and can be lazy about getting stuff done. I am controlling and like things done my way, because they usually are the most logical and straightforward, lol. The ugly: I hate really stupid, ignorant behavior. I fear failure and thus have avoided doing many things I might have succeeded with. I too am concerned that I will look down my nose at obese people once my weight is off - or at the very least want to run up to them and say, look, this surgery will help you. I can be judgmental of people right out of the gate and if you screw with me and I lose my trust or faith in you, you will not earn it back as I don't have time for drama queens in my life. So in a nutshell, that's about it. Fiercely loyal, artistic, talented and unforgiving. Oh, and a recovering catholic turned atheist, politically conservative, born in Cuba and I like tattoos, heehee. Inky

I think it is wonderful to see the colorful personality we have here on the A team Some of us come from pain why we r obease. but we all can add different insight to our obesity and why we r this way.. or how we arrived to this place of fat land and how we r hiking out of it We all will approach it is such different ways..but also can help each other in so many ways .. I still can't believe it is possible to be thin and I wonder when I reach goal will I still see the fat women or is their really a thin woman screaming and I shut her up with some donuts .. time will tell LOL I love it when we laugh and can cry here I can't wait to meet everyone in chicago Lisa