people's attitude towards a thinner person
Now that I have lost near 100lbs and it is considerably noticeable, I have found that peoples attitude towards me is different. I am not talking about people that I know, but strangers in stores that I come across. They talk to me more, acknowledge that you are there instead of pretending that you do not exist. Store employees even tend to pay more attention to you. I don't know if it is just me or if anyone else has experienced this. I am not saying that I was treated poorly before. I never felt like I was treated rudely, but I just notice now that people actually see you there as a "normal" person.
I sound like I am rambling on, but I have experienced this probably four times in last two days.
My sister in law who had RNY two years ago warned me of this and I have already noticed being much less invisible around the public. I think part of it is the average person may be more comfortable with you at a smaller size, but I think a bigger part is that you are more comfortable with yourself now and that project to others around you. I feel that because I am happier, more people are glad to interact with me, rather than when I was a big fat mopey mess out in public.
that's my .02,
Inky
I agree! I have more people saying hi then ever before. I have notice I have a pep in my step and I hold myself with more confidence. It is amazing being 357 lbs and invisible. I even had some hot guys putting there groceries in there car turn to me and say hi. not in a hitting on way but in a friendly way.
dee
Well, I refused to ever be invisible. Cheri, you know what I am talking about.
However, I have had some interesting things happen and really think it was due to a different attitude on my part.
I was filling up my work car at the station. A REALLY cute (and young!) sheriffs deputy pulls in. He just started talking away to me and could not be friendlier (WOW! did that make my day). I saw him later and he made a point of getting back out of his vehicle to say Hi.
This type of thing has not happened in many years. To actually be aknowledged by a young cute male (other than my son's friends). I have been someone's wife or mother for so long I forgot I was female!! I realized that I never even look anymore. I am very married but had so little confidence, I guess.
So, yes. People's attitudes have changed but so have mine.
Yep, I can totally relate. Suddenly I'm getting much better customer service wherever I go, and men are opening doors for me and actually flirting with me. When it first started happening, I kept thinking it was my imagination, but it has happened enough times that I finally admitted that it was real. It's true that I have a much more positive attitude now and am not embarrassed of myself, which certainly plays a role, but the fact is, people are nicer to people who aren't morbidly obese, even if it is an unconscious thing. It ****** me off on the one hand, yet I love not being in the MO club any more (even though I'll never be the same as someone who's always been thin). Yesterday I was at the Bodyworlds exhibit, looking at a cross section of a morbidly obese man, and a surgeon was there telling a group of 5-6 of us how he estimates that 90% of post-surgical complications with his patients have been with fat people. The other people listening to him were thin, when I suddenly realized that he probably would never have said something like that if I were there pre-surgery! As someone wearing a size 14, I suppose I am an "average" looking person now-even though my BMI makes me technically obese. I felt like such a fraud for a minute. I keep feeling like I'm "passing" or wearing a disguise. The mind has definitely not caught up with the weight loss yet!
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