update on me to my A Team

OK it has been a rocky couple weeks as some of you know. I was having home issues and started drinking. I stopped that and got mew meds for my anxiety. My mother in law calls and has the nerve to tell my husband that my son is not his because 1. I cheated with our roommates and 2. they don't have those kind of genes (My son has Autism) She is completely crazy!! I now decided to make her eat her words. She had to fork over 300.00 so we could do a DNA test on both kids. What a waste of her money. I have never been unfaithful. Well that was the rough part. The good part is I registered for school again. I was thinking about being a welder but I want to do something I love. I am going to school to be a floral designer. I love flowers and have done 4 weddings so far. I know I wont make a lot of money but I will be truly happy! Oh and I went ahead and took PE 1 so If I want to get an A, I have to go to the school gym and work out! Now I finally have my motivation to get off my ass. Dee

Wow, you have been through some really crazy stuff. I commend you for taking things head on with your MIL. Makes a person wonder what her agenda is. Sounds like you are finding ways to cope and deal with the stress in a healthy way. IT is important to learn hope to handle things without the food crutch. I am so happy that you have stopped drinking. Transfer addiction is such a real possibilty that it has scared me into not even trying anything. Just know you can turn to us when you need to. Come on here and vent if that is what you need to do. WE are HERE for you whenever you need us.

thanks Sharra! I was worried about the transfer of addiction! When I actually stalled one week I sat down and saw the drinking was the cause and that was enough to get back on track! My mother in law is Chinese and she was very upset that lee didn't marry a Chinese women, when we first started dating she put an ad in the Chinese newspaper looking for a good women for him oops he found me lol!!!!

A welder? When you said that I pictured you dancing like Jennifer Bieles in Flashdance!!!! I am very proud of you for all the positive steps you have taken. MILs can sure be PIAs Shar

Shar Lmao! Thank you so much! I just figured they made good money and the classes were shorter? I just also realized then stand hunched over for hours, and my back hurts to much for that!

Well woman you are truly coming out of your ****on. I am so proud of you. And you know what...You are getting stronger.. I can see it.. Keep it up. Go for your dreams no matter what they are. And as for your Mother in law. I have been in your shoes. Man she must be bored. LOL.....WAY TO GO

thanks Crystal. My mother in law lucky for me lives in colorado and I told her she will not see our kids untill the DNA test is done and then she has to appolagize to me and to my mother. She is so unhappy she wants everyone else to be as well!

I suggest that you compartmentalize. Put people in their place as far as their importance to you, then deal with only those that matter. As far as your mil goes sounds like she needs to find a hobby. She is not only hurting you and your hubby by saying these things, but she is also potentially harming her own grandchildren. I would remind her that if she can not behave herself she will lose the privilege to see them. It is definitely time to focus on you! Be proud that you have made the choice to return to school (no small feat when kids are involved.) You go girl!! You deserve to be happy and don't let anyone take that motivation away from you!

Marla You hit it right on the head! I said to my husband now I know why she has been so distant to my son! I thought it was because she is a lousy grandma (she is) but she thinks nick is not hers! She is trash I am just glad she live states away and hasn't visited in over 2 years!

Glad to hear you have stopped the drinking and are making wiser, healthier choices. It's so easy to fall into another addiction now that food has been taken away from us... but good for you recognizing this and making the right choices. As for your MIL... why doesn't your husband stand up to her and put her in her place? Sounds like your dear hubby needs to get a little more involved and protect his wife & family from his mother's hateful words! Becoming a floral designer sounds awesome!!!! And it sounds like you have the magic touch if you've already done a few weddings. I say persue your dream and do what makes you happy & thrive! And kudos to PE class... great challenge for yourself! Hang in there hun... life is a journey, so let's make it worth our while!!!! Cheers!