Eating with the family

I was wondering if anyone has a problem eating with the family . I seem to get distracted and forget to chew real well or take bigger bites and then I get very ill and feel like pucking..seems with this tighting I have to eat not talk and chew slowly I find eating in private I eat slower and not feel so ill.. I feel bad not eating with my family but so hard when your grandson shricks at dinner table etc and just gets to me .. I told my family it is very hard for me to eat with them but they don't seem to understand since their dad was RNY and can eat with the family .. I can't when I do I feel sooooooooo sick . hugs Lisa

I am just the opposite. When I eat alone, I tend to eat faster. With other people, I am much more conscientious. Shar

Try eating off a kids plate and put your fork down between bites. I eat with my family but when it's anyone other than my kids I get tired of hearing "is that all your going to eat" My sister's boyfriend seems to be the only one who doesn't give me a hard time. Or if I eat a little more than I normally do I hear "keep eating like that and you be just like your cousin" she had her stomache stapled 30 years ago and gained it all back plus but this women eats enough to feed a small country. I know how hard it is to eat around family but for different reasons.

I don't have that problem if I have another adult with me while I'm with my kids. If not, I find myself quickly swallowing and not chewing so I can tend to them.

I have that problem - my family tends to eat fast and I find myself eating the same way, and of course I suffer from it afterwards. I have to really think to slow down and chew. I'm getting better, but I still forget sometimes. I had the RNY in April, but I thought it applied no matter which surgery you had. Marcia

I seem to emulate whoever I am with. If they are eating fast, me too... I've found at one friends, if i spend time pushing my food around on my plate it helps me slow down and gives the illusion that I'm working on it. When I go out to eat, I subconsciously hurry... I think it's the pressure of holding up the party and the waiter... but I definately feel the pain. I try not to show it, but invariably hear "Are U OKAY?" I try not to go out too much and eat by myself most of the time. I have to keep reminding myself that food does not equal love.

Lisa, I not only have a problem with not eating as fast as I used to eat but with the amount I can eat. My husband loves to cook and since he is retired and I'm not, he tries to have something ready for me to eat when I get home from work. He takes great pride in his cooking and makes a great effort to make it like I'd like it. As supportive as he's been for his surgery and all the knowledge he has regarding the changes, he just can't seem to understand when I don't eat much of what he's made. "Hon, what's the matter? Is THAT all you're gonna eat? Huh? You don't like it? What's the wrong with it?" And so I explain AGAIN,,,,,,,,,, "No Honey, I love it!! It's wonderful! I just CAN'T eat anymore. But thank you VERY much for the great dinner" Pam T