My family's eating habits.

My husband is losing weight with me as well. He weighed 285 when I had my surgery. I weighed 288. Now, I am at 247 and he is at 255. At first it was a competition. He has a job that is more physically demanding than mine, so we thought he was getting more exercise throughout the day. We eat right, and I am constantly on him about his portion control. I put his food on a small plate just like I do mine. He gets a little more than me obviously, but he is doing really well and I am very proud of him. My daughter is another story. No matter what I try to do, I can't get her to change some of her habits. She is a very picky eater. If it is green, she will not eat it!!!! Never has, not even as a baby eating baby food would she touch greens. I try to sneak it in. I make "mashed potatoes" out of cauliflour in the food processer. She can't tell the difference. I try to explain to her that she needs to eat better foods in order to be healthy. She is four and almost weighs 50 lbs. That really scares me. I don't want her to have the problems that I did. The doctor said that I should not give her anything and when she is hungary enough she will eat what I offer her. Does that sound right????? And my Grandmother watches her during the day and doesn't care what she eats (umm....yes...she watched me also when I was a child, which was a lot of my problem) I beg my Grandma to watch what she gives her, but she says "if the child is hungary I am going to feed her what she wants." She was making her chicken and dumplings the other day at 7:45 in the morning!!!! FOR BREAKFAST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I almost died!!!!! I don't know what to do.

I know exactly what you mean. I have a 6 year old boy who will projectile vomit when he eats one pea! My husband does not cook decent meals at night, so I am left being the bad guy. One thing that I did was switch to veggie chicken nuggets. My son doesn't even know the difference yet...tee hee! I also make sure that he gets vitamins (the gummy bear ones) every morning to supliment his diet. Mine weighs close to 80 lbs, but is the tallest kid in his class. My pediatrician says as long as I keep him active in sports, then he should be ok. I still need to be mindful of what he eats, but don't want to make a battle out of it because that can cause disorders down the road. I think as long as we continue to eat healthy, then the kids will come around eventually....I hope!

Your doctor is very right and you need to make your grandma stop. I know it will be hard but she needs to realize what she is doing to your daughter. My son will be 5 next month and weighs about 35lbs. I know he is a bit small but he eats very healthy food and is always on the go. He does get a little junk food but it is all in moderation. His idea of snacks are peaches and bananas or granola bars (junk food in our house) he will try at times to not eat his veges but then I just put a little cheese on them and they are gone. I can't stress to you enough about how important it is to teach her proper food choises now as it will stick with her forever. You don't want her to have to deal with what we have dealt with. Chicken and dumplings at breakfast is going a bit far. Your grandma is teaching your daughter that regardless of what she wants to eat she can have it wether it is good for her or not. I don't want to sound preachy but I worry every day about my boys growing up and being obese. Everyone in my family is big and I pray they don't grow up making poor food choises and I want to make sure I teach them right now so it is easier for them when they are older. I think it's great you and your hubby are doing so well. I hope it rubs off on her soon. btw do you fix special meals for her or make her eat what you are eating. If she is eating what you are at home she will learn some from that.

Four year olds r way to young to understand the whole concept.. Of eating healthy etc.. Right now u should focus on her not gaining any more weight .. Let her grow taller into her weight.. I am educationg my kids on weight loss but they r older and i have 2 autistic kids that r very hard to reason with but I have a personal trainer for both helping me out on them .. they r 18 and 20 I do not buy food that is bad for them to eat .. I buy lots of fresh fruits and veggies No more chips soda and splenda is here and sugar is gone I have found wylers sugar free is very good choice for my kids to drink.. they love it cannot tell it is diet .. I buy the low cal oatmeal packets and I buy raisen brain and good type of cereals..My kids love shredded wheat now.. try the frosted one at first.. Slowly change their foods around the house.. They cant eat bad food if u don't buy it.. I did it slowly and kids did not whine.. u both r doing a great gift by example .. don;t be hard on yourself it is a process She is very young to understand but when she gets to be 8 she will see the picture we r eating healthier and we never use the word diet in our home Healty food choices I was told when your toddler refuses to eat u tell them to eat what is served or food goes away and take the plate away and turn on garbage and toss the meal down the sink .. no food tell next meal leanred this in parenting class I did this with our 3 year old grandson and he no longer makes a fuss about what is served.. he use to act like he was gagging on veggies LOL Good luck Lisa